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post #21 of 25
Does your local school district have something like parents as teachers? Maybe involvement in that will help her see or have outside source to support you on something not quit right.
post #22 of 25
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Originally Posted by vegemamato View Post
I really don't want to put this off either but I'm almost positive that she won't do anything about it until she has a break (in two months). I wish she had more time to work with me, or even ask how her kid's doing, but at this point she's so busy and stressed out that I don't think she would be receptive or proactive. Hopefully she'll feel more relaxed and able to deal with this later on..
Won't she need to start making appointments NOW to get in THEN though? My nephew was just DX-ed with autism recently, and they had a lot of appointments and evaluations and consultations. One required them to drive a couple of hours from their home and stay overnight.

And as someone else said, she may not realize this isn't typical behavior if he's her first. A friend of mine never realized anything was amiss until her SIL spoke frankly with her. She went ahead and had her DD evaluated and she had enough 'tendencies' to qualify her for early intervention, which made an unbelievable difference.
post #23 of 25
A friend of mine did this, but it was with her in-home provider. The DCP's child apparently had quite a few atypical behaviors, and my friend brought it up. The DCP was very angry, so much so that she would no longer watch my friend's children.

However, the DCP then put her child in preschool and the teachers there encouraged her to get an eval, and the child did end up being DXed. I think that my friend and the DCP are now back on speaking terms, but I don't think they're close. They were friends before and hung out socially quite a bit. I guess it's really hard to know how someone's going to react, but if you feel pretty confident that something is amiss, it would be the kindest thing in the long run to say something. Especially because the child could be helped by therapy.
post #24 of 25
I understand your sympathy for the mom and her situation, and I am glad that you are watching out for this family.

Just another perspective though, if I were her I would want to know asap. It's her decision whether she does anything w/the information but she has the right to hear any concerns from the person who spends so much time w/her child.

If she does nothing, well at least you mentioned it. We never know what's going on in other peoples' heads and it's easy (but unfair) to assume what their reactions, motives, decisions will be (I have to constantly tell myself that it's really not my place to transfer my own judgement or beliefs onto anyone, even if I think I "know for sure" and I would like the same consideration).

Hoping for the best possible outcome for the little boy, and kudos to you for speaking up for him.
post #25 of 25
Hi! As a teacher I observe behaviors, patterns, frequency, duration and intensity- I do not diagnose. So, as a caregiver I would make some notes, anecdotals of what you are seeing, not inferences. And then bring them to the parent.

I know this is hard, I have been in your shoes. As others have said, approach the family but be aware that they may not take the news well.
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