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Originally Posted by tzs  i dunno, i see the comparison to what other cultures do alot on this forum and i'm starting to think it's not really a fair comparison.
yes, in other countries a family might all sleep in one room but that may be where the similarities end with us in the US. they usually have more extended family help than we do here. they might be extended co-sleeping, the kiddos might also be waking up all night to comfort nurse....but they also probably aren't waking the kiddos up at 6:30 am to go to daycare where they are constantly overstimulated and only get one sub-par nap a day. and the mamas may not be working full-time +.
not saying that everybody here does that either but i think you have to adjust your sleep situation to your real-life lifestyle because sleep is so important for little kids.
my kid sleeps better away from us so she does. i also think that a baby having their own room is a little ridiculous but apparently that is the best for us. i'm not going to sleep deprive her just so she can be next to us. if yours does better with you then do that. if you can wake up every 2 hours to nurse an older babe while getting them enough sleep then great. or maybe he/she only sleeps when next to you. you'll know what works best when the time comes.
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This is true for us as well. My baby totally needs his own space. He doesn't really like to be worn that much right now, he really wants to be in the stroller facing me so he can talk to me. He very rarely wants to sleep with me in my bed, he'd prefer to sleep in the crib in our room. Since he doesn't wake up throughout the night to eat at all, I could put that crib in another room and I don't think he'd care either way. He takes nap in his nursery and he could care less.
One thing that isn't taken into consideration is that the baby may not need his own space (he may not care where he's at to be honest), but YOU might need your own space. I have lots of friends who consider themselves to be very AP and feel GUILTY about admitting that they would rather the baby sleep in the nursery so that they could have private space with their husband. I totally get that. Sometimes as moms, especially AP moms, we spend our whole day tuned into our baby and holding our baby and giving our all to our baby that we need a place to call our own. I know that for my own marriage, it will be better for the baby to sleep in his own bedroom and it has definitely been essential for the baby to sleep in his own bed. A happy baby is raised by happy parents so that's what works for us.
