Dh has fairly low expectations for what we agreed I would do as the sahm prior to marriage. He expects me to do what we agreed on, just as he does what he agreed to do (work very, very hard so that I can stay home).
But he doesn't have a lot of specifics and isn't too picky.
--the children to be well cared for, and taught well (we homeschool)
--the house not to be a wreck
--that we eat something healthy at regular meal times.
How I get it done, he doesn't really care, and the children are the priority. He's not picky about things being perfect cleaning wise, he just doesn't like obvious filth and clutter. He'd eat rice and boiled veggies every night if I served it.
And truthfully, he doesn't demand anything. I know he has these expectations because we discussed them thoroughly when courting, and neither of us has changed in our beliefs about how we want to run our family. If things are heading on a downhill slope, he might ask me what's going on. If I'm sick or something, he'll jump in. But since when he's home (he's out of the country at the moment) he's working 60-80 hours a week doing *hard* work, so I don't feel at all put upon to be doing what I consider a fairly easy job, though it is a 24/7 job.