i have course hair and tried waxing myself....it was a no go....
hairy is not an option, i hate it and feel very uncomfortable hairy and DH does not like it either...
This may be blasphemy here (), but laser hair removal.
... It may help improve your situation greatly to where you can just use sugar wax or threading for upkeep.
OK, mulvah, I'd like to hear more on this. Waxing etc is not exactly natural either so for my money, you're in the right place.
Like the op, I've got coarse hair, and lots of it. Like - lots. My skin tone is medium and the hair is dark, so I think I'm a good candidate for laser.
If you don't mind, would you share your hair type, skin type and laser experience, and what kind of "upkeep" is then necessary? Anything and everything you're willing to share about this is great for me, and mods or mamas, if you think this is better as pm, that's fine too of course.
OP, I'm still waxing (since I'm still waxing and waning about the laser option) and my fabulous person uses a good semi-natural soft wax product on my legs, and another good semi-natural hard wax on the bikini line. It makes a big difference. So if you go that way, ask for someone who has and does both.
I'm sending you a detailed PM that may be TMI for the main board (), but I will say for anyone else reading, look into it. I had issues with ingrown hairs and scarring, which led me to have my hair removed. It's the best thing I've done for myself (in terms of my body); it improved my self-esteem greatly.
As for upkeep, it will depend on the number of treatments and how your body responds. I rarely shave now.
I do laser hair removal. I've had bothersome facial hair since puberty, and tried lots of methods to get rid of it. When I first heard about laser hair removal I was in college and couldn't wait to try it. What I didn't know at first was that it takes multiple sessions to permanently remove the hair. My first experience was at a dermatologist office, and then I went to a place that was specifically for laser hair removal. I'm not sure what kind of laser they used, but I found that it didn't really work for me at all. It was expensive, so I felt cheated.
I later moved to a larger city and saw advertisements for a laser hair removal place that guaranteed their work. I decided to give it another try, and I had success on my lip and chin. They are always running specials, and I eventually decided to get my bikini area, butt, and lower legs done. I would like to have my entire legs done, but they considered upper and lower legs two different areas, and the special deal at the time was for 3 areas. I don't have my entire bikini area done, but they said that some women do the whole thing. I basically shaved it into the shape I want, and they laser around the area leaving the hair in the middle. Was really awkward the first time, but I've gotten over it. They are all women at the place I go, which helps. Now my pubic hair is always in a neat arrangement. I still have some hairs that grow in the lasered area, but not many. I nearly never have to shave the area. I don't think my backside has responded quite a well, but my lower legs are great. I hardly ever have to shave them!
The downsides to laser hair removal are the costs and it hurts. I think I paid $800 for the "deal" on my bikini, butt, and lower legs. But as I mentioned, it is guaranteed, and I basically get to keep going back as many times as I need beyond the normal regimen. Definitely make sure the place you choose has a guarantee. As for the pain, its kind of like a rubber band sting. It sucks, but I get through it thinking of the results. The more times you have the treatments, the higher they turn up the lasers. Sometimes there are two of them working on me at once, which keeps me from focusing on one area at once. Although I don't have my entire bikini area done, I do have them do a small portion of my lower labia. Yeah, that hurts. Last time I was in I asked about the procedure during pregnancy, and they said they would not do the bikini area during pregnancy, and it was my choice if I still wanted to do the other areas like lip/chin or lower legs. If you don't come in at the prescribed intervals it can "void" your guarantee, but they will give you an exemption for pregnancy.
I've kinda struggled with the best alternative for "natural" hair removal, and other than shaving, there really doesn't seem to be a perfect answer. I recently switched to an old fashioned steel safety razor because I hated buying plastic laden expensive blades for a fru-fru lady razor like a Venus, etc. At least with the laser treatments I have to shave those areas MUCH less, and hopefully eventually not at all. Although I've been having the laser treatments on my lip and chin for at least 2 years now and the hair isn't 100% gone, but it is SO much better than before I started the laser treatment. Hopefully one day we won't find out that the lasers are super dangerous........
Sorry for the long post, but I really wanted to share my experience with this!