ok so a childhood friend and myself reconnect after 20 some years of losing touch anyhow she has two kids 7 and 5 i hear from her all the time how gifted they are and how her ( the mom) is responsible for their success, ok Great. I am really am very happy her sweet littel girls are so smart...really
I never enough thought to compare our kids but apparently she has been.
I say this because the other day i tell her how( my friend) that my sitter's son writes his own name amongst other things( he just turned 3) and how impressed I am and my old friend goes on to say big deal her kids were witing at 3 years of age too, and then proceeded to ask me what I do all day because my 3 year old knows nothing and my 6 year old cant even read yet (ofcourse she breaks the tension with a littel laugh) I didnt get defensive, i just stated the my oldest reads a littel and my youngets doesnt need to nothing at 3 except how to play and that we take more of an unschooling approach.
in that breathe she claims that i am lazy not teaching my children, i explain you cant make a kid learn and she says i should be sitting them down and making them do school work all day (after all I am home all day) She is a nurse works three days a week and is home the rest of the week and her kids do not get home to almost 5 from school and then have other activites, in my opinion she doesnt see her kids enough smart or not. but ofcourse i will keep my opinions to myself... ohwell i am done.. I think I will have to try to keep the kids out of our conversation somehow. thanks for reading :0)
I never enough thought to compare our kids but apparently she has been.
I say this because the other day i tell her how( my friend) that my sitter's son writes his own name amongst other things( he just turned 3) and how impressed I am and my old friend goes on to say big deal her kids were witing at 3 years of age too, and then proceeded to ask me what I do all day because my 3 year old knows nothing and my 6 year old cant even read yet (ofcourse she breaks the tension with a littel laugh) I didnt get defensive, i just stated the my oldest reads a littel and my youngets doesnt need to nothing at 3 except how to play and that we take more of an unschooling approach.
in that breathe she claims that i am lazy not teaching my children, i explain you cant make a kid learn and she says i should be sitting them down and making them do school work all day (after all I am home all day) She is a nurse works three days a week and is home the rest of the week and her kids do not get home to almost 5 from school and then have other activites, in my opinion she doesnt see her kids enough smart or not. but ofcourse i will keep my opinions to myself... ohwell i am done.. I think I will have to try to keep the kids out of our conversation somehow. thanks for reading :0)
SAHMs and WAHMs who homeschool are already expected to be super-moms by the public, so our friends should support us and encourage us, not try to make us feel inferior to them. I'm sorry she treated you like that. Even if I left the kids out of my conversation with her, I'd certainly have to tell her about how she made me feel.
Big hugs! 
