Originally Posted by PoetryLover
Did you mean the difference between attachment parenting of birth children and attachment parenting of stepchildren?
Well, I'll bite. I don't think this line of question is stupid, Mizliz. When I first joined MDC, I noticed that a lot of the posts in Blended Families were about conflicts or challenges with exes or step-kids, yet the disclaimer is that this is not meant to be a place to bash your ex, but to discuss how natural parenting pertains to blended families. Well, if I buy organic food and Tom's of Maine toothpaste for my bio kids, my step-kids are welcome to the same, of course... what needs to be discussed
about that? But actually, I've read many posts where women are frustrated because there's a vast difference in lifestyle and parenting style between their own home and that of the children's other parent. (Johnny's wondering why he can't have McDonald's every day and ignore vegetables and play violent video games at his Mom's, like he does at his Dad's.) Or, a single mom decided to raise her kids a certain way, then married someone who turns out not to be that supportive of it, or not to understand it, or who thinks it's just not working. There are a lot of complexities to discuss, in situations like that. Of course, that's not all
we discuss here...
Or, if you really were talking about Attachment Parenting, as PoetryLover suggests, I'm curious about that, too. I've heard the term - and I assumed I was engaging in it, when I followed my instincts, by breastfeeding my baby; taking him everywhere with me; carrying him or using a sling, instead of a bulky, plastic carrier; and responding to him when he communicated, instead of letting him cry in his crib until some "schedule" said he should be hungry.
But what exactly does A.P. mean, with regard to older children? Is it something that could
- or should - be done differently, with kids whom you parent, but you aren't their mother