Say it with me, "With dh being unemployed, we don't have extra money." Repeat as necessary.
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10/12/10 at 12:26pm
Oh I can totally relate to this thread. We have literally a zero $ spending budget. I have so called "friends" that have given me guilt trips about not getting a family membership to the YMCA (its "only" $100 a month) or putting the kids in soccer, ballet, etc. Or asking if I want to go out for dinner and drinks twice a month as a mom's night out. All those things sound like fun, but there is no way I can afford any of that. We pay bills (nothing extra at all) and then leftovers go to gas and groceries. That is all there is. If I buy a cup of tea for knitting night it comes out of grocery money.
What is funny is one of these people has a DH that was unemployed for a good portion of last year. I seriously don't think we are speaking the same language at times.
I've been on both sides of the fence. We've had times where we didn't think twice about spending $30 or $40 on a night out, and times where we've agonized for $3. I will say that unless you've been in a situation where money is really tight, you really don't get it. I know I didn't. I totally didn't understand how some people wouldn't have $15 or $20 or whatever. And, then our situation changed and my husband went back to school, and I totally get it.
Anyone else find this as frustrating as I do?
DH has been unemployed for awhile. He's looking for a job but nadda so far. I have been a SAHM, though I was just hired to start a job next week.
We've told friends and family that have asked us to do this or that that we aren't doing so hot financially. They KNOW this to some extent, since we haven't had regular income in 1.5 years.
My BFF keeps bothering me to go out to dinner/drinks with her. I'd love to go but it ends up costing $30 between food and drinks for me alone. Even if I just go and have water and say chips and salsa, that's still gas money plus $5-10.
My IL's are going to the beach this weekend for an event and have asked us to go. They'd have room in their yurt for us, so no lodging expenses. But even if I pack food, we'd still spend $50 roundtrip on gas and probably at least $10-$20 on some food or misc items that we'll end up needing possibly. I told MIL today, we just can't do it. We CAN do it, but we are really watching our money.
But everyone keeps getting so upset when I explain that we can't. I tell them I'd love to go, they tell me I deserve a mini-vacation or a break (I agree, lol!) but they still don't seem to grasp the idea that we can't do it due to finances. This coming from people that have had to scrimp and save themselves in very difficult times.
Vent over. If you read all of this, good on you. LOL!