Do strangers ever try to help you?

[Peppamint]

I'm sure it's quite a sight when I'm putting ds in the back carry in our Kozy Carrier... but it's quite annoying when people come up and try to help. I guess it probably looks rather scary!

My MIL always tries to help me and the other day I almost dropped ds because her hands kept getting in my way. I had to ask her to stop helping me because it wasn't helping.

Dh has been known to help me when a strap is twisted or something, but at least he knows to keep out of it. :LOL

I was just curious if anyone has had offers of help from the concerned public.

[chellemarie]

If family or friends aren't around, I'll ask strangers to pull the fabric of my sling wider across my back. I was recently vacationing with my parents. I asked my mom to do it once...after that, she would like attack me when I had him in the sling. One time, she had the fabric pulled down to my right elbow.

Uh, Mom? I need my right arm!

[*solsticemama*]

When I saw this thread I had to respond. Same with us bbmommma. The Kozy has garnered several offers of help. Well-meaning but as you know it really is easier to do it yourself.

[Peppamint]

Originally posted by chellemarie
Uh, Mom? I need my right arm!

:LOL

Yeah, solsticemama... I really don't want to drop ds!!

[Piglet68]

I have on a couple of occaisons when putting DD in the Maya Wrap sling in the back carry. It looks like quite the production, but I hate it when people ask me if I need help b/c I feel like I'm being a bad sling-promoting mama if they think it looks so hard! Isn't that silly? :LOL

But actually, it is much easier to do it myself.

[MamaAllNatural]

I haven't really had this happen. I think people can sense that "I've got it!" (iow 'leave me alone!') I actually do it pretty quick and don't really look at anyone while I'm getting him in there (maybe someone has approached and I never saw!:LOL ). But sometimes people that know me (like friends & family) seem to want to try to help. It's sweet that they're so willing to help but it kind of makes me wonder, "How do you think I do this the other 2,000 times you're *not* here?"

[Ravin]

Well, I'm not sure you'd call it "help" but Monday I was walking down the street w/ DD on my back in the Kozy asleep and someone driving by called the cops because they thought there was something wrong with her!

[MamaAllNatural]

Ok Ravin, you're going to have to tell us the whole story now! It was because of the sling they thought something was wrong with her? I swear in the incident I discuss in the op, the women acted like they really thought my ds was dead in the sling. Please share your story...

[manitoba_mommy]

I have yet to have a stranger offer to help me with the Trekker but my dh helps with it all the time when he is home. I don't mind because I kow how much he loves being able to help me, I never carry anything when he is home either. I am also fairly sure that where the strap does up is part of the reason he helps, does not get to touch there too often these days :LOL

MM

[memory maker]

Well, I'm not sure you'd call it "help" but Monday I was walking down the street w/ DD on my back in the Kozy asleep and someone driving by called the cops because they thought there was something wrong with her!

some people just dont get it do they?

[Peppamint]

Originally posted by Ravin
Well, I'm not sure you'd call it "help" but Monday I was walking down the street w/ DD on my back in the Kozy asleep and someone driving by called the cops because they thought there was something wrong with her!

Do tell! :

[Breathless Wonder]

I've never been offered help. I usually just get snarky comments about the sling not being safe, or "No wonder you are crying baby! you CAN'T be comfortable in there!!!" :

Usually, if I need help, my oldest gives me a hand. He's much better at helping than my DH is even. LOL!

[MamaAllNatural]

Originally posted by Breathless Wonder
I usually just get snarky comments about the sling not being safe, or "No wonder you are crying baby! you CAN'T be comfortable in there!!!" :

Say it isn't so! Now even on my most patient day, that comment would set me off! What did you say?

[Breathless Wonder]

I never know what to say. I usually end up babbling, trying to defend myself/ baby wearing.

I get the comment about the baby being comfortable alot. You'd think I'd have a good response by now.

[MamaAllNatural]

Would anyone object to me starting a thread for comebacks to rude/negative comments about the sling? I think it would be fun and also help some mamas out.

Oh, and Ravin, we're still waiting for that story!...

[Peppamint]

Originally posted by MamaAllNatural
Would anyone object to me starting a thread for comebacks to rude/negative comments about the sling? I think it would be fun and also help some mamas out.

Oh, and Ravin, we're still waiting for that story!...

Go ahead!

[Wabi Sabi]

I remember reading about what happened to Ravin earlier this week. Let me see if I can find the thread...

Ah- here we go...

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...hreadid=126843

[Peppamint]

: Sheesh, does that mean I should call the cops next time I see a small baby in a carseat with a propped bottle of red food colored liquid?

[Glittergal]

oh my goodness, i cannot believe that story about ravin. people are so out of control. i still laugh when i think about my traveling alone with dd at christmas time. it was 5am at the airport and of course dd was sound asleep in my kkafp. at security, i had to remove her from the pouch and take the pouch off and put it through xray. lovely, especially since i had all my other stuff and i hate waking up dd. so as i'm trying to maneuver it all (as i'm alone)...the security guard comes up to help me and practically screams "MAM, WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT DROP THE BABY". okay, thank you sir!

[thismama]

Last night I had a woman get out of her car and follow me down the sidewalk and up on the porch of my friend's lovely middle-class home in our lovely middle-class neighbourhood to offer to give me a stroller because she assumed I must not have one since my baby was in a carrier!!!

Then she saw our mammoth stroller sitting on the porch and said "oh, you do have a stroller! you must just _like_ carrying your baby!"

I said... yeah.

Weird culture we live in.