When my son was in 3rd grade we needed to move, and part of the decision was whether or not to change schools. I decided to stay in the same city, because the middle school attached to his charter school seemed like a great fit for him -- small, consistent with my family values, lots of hand holding for the kids, gentle . . .
This summer we moved again, solely because of schools. He's now in a big public middle school with a reputation for lots of pressure, changing classes every 45 minutes, and high demands for independence. It's probably most like the first school on your list and it's perfect for him.
I was really unprepared for how much he changed between 3rd and 5th grade, and how his needs changed too. In 3rd grade having my family values reflected by the school seemed huge -- by 5th it was clear that he had absorbed them and was ready for the wider world. In 3rd grade, having one teacher he was close too was crucial, by the end of 5th he wanted to be learning from experts in their fields which meant a teacher for every subject. In 3rd not having too much homework was a big concern of mine -- by the time we moved it was clear that he's got good planning and organizational skills. He's at a school with a reputation for 3 hours of homework a night, but routinely comes home and tells me that he got X done during the study hall they have during homeroom, he read Y chapter on the bus, and that he finished Z last weekend while I was sleeping in because he knew he'd want free time during the week.
So, while I can't tell you which school to pick, I can tell you to expect your daughter to change in wonderful ways between now and then, and that by 5th grade you'll have a lot more clarity about who she is as a person and her own priorities. She'll know a lot more about where her life is headed, and which skills she'll want to develop too.