Wow, thank you for all the lovely replies! I do feel relieved that DS isn't the only kid who says those kinds of things and refuses to get excited over the baby. It is wonderful to see that All the older LO's in these posts have come to love their little siblings. Since DS has always been so opposed to being a big brother, I am really hoping that DS2 is an easy-going kid whose personality meshes with DS1. Funny that a lot of the older kids with the anti-sibling sentiments are so strong-willed. Perhaps they just feel too out of control when confronted with the possibility of such a big life change? Playing along with DS's desire to feel in control and helpful, I asked if he could help me keep the baby out of DH's room. He really went for that. I know I'll have to watch out for DS being too controlling of DS2. He would probably happily follow him around and tell him what to do all day Thanks to the advice given here, I am going to focus on making DS feel involved by giving him little tasks that make him feel involved, and on making sure he doesn't miss out on my attentions. I really feel that he will be able to adapt once he feels comfortable in his new role.
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10/11/10 at 3:51pm