How to help?

[Baby~Braatens~Mama]

I have a friend who says she wants to bf, but has been stocking up on formula and is planning on supplementing "only at night" and has been talking about feeding her baby every 3 hours... How can I tell her that supplementing especially when establishing your supply is no good. How can I explain that her baby should be fed on demand, and that the 3 hour deal isn't going to be strict, the baby eats when he needs to! She says that she has "tired" to bf before but that her milk didn't come in, if she was supplementing from the begining at night could that be the reason why it didn't? It seems like she is setting herself up for failure. IMO beginning your bf relationship with a stockhold of formula and feeding her 2 day old baby exclusively on formula at night just seems like the perfect way to say "I tried, but I couldn't do it." (Which is BS in my opinion...)

Since she is a new friend, and I don't want to step on her toes, I was thinking of giving her the book "So that's what their for".

[ElaynesMom]

I think giving her a book that has info about avoiding supplementing, feeding on demand, and other good bf info is a good idea. I'd just give it to her and say, "I remember you had said you had some trouble bfing before, but that you wanted to try this time. I found this book had tons of great, up to date info that I thought was important, but wouldn't have otherwise known. I thought maybe you'd like to borrow it." I haven't read the book you mentioned, but looking on amazon, it looks like it might be a good one to give (a bit more lighthearted).

I wouldn't say anything more than that, as you run the risk of offending.