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I'm so freaking fed up.

post #1 of 21
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Cried myself to sleep the past two nights. I'm 11 days overdue. I'm feeling like I want to throw away my homebirth and go get induced, even though the Army hospital has no idea who I am, I have never been seen there, and who knows what will happen to me. I haven't seen my doctor in a month. The only assurances I have that everything is ok is that I feel ok...I mean I *know* everything's ok, but I'm approaching 42 weeks like a freight train and I'm starting to freak out. I've never gotten within spitting distance of my due date before...the closest I've ever been was 7 days, so I'm officially 18 days more pregnant than I ever have been before. I don't know what's holding him back! I'm not even having teeny contractions. There's NOTHING NOTHING going on down there, it's like I'm only 6 months and have ages to go. My ribs are being stabbed like you wouldn't believe, and my pelvis feels broken. My house is a wreck and I can't keep it clean. My kids just roll their eyes when I tell them that "I could go into labor at any minute" and the house needs to be ready. It's like even they've stopped believing that it's actually going to happen. I can't self induce, and I can't even get a membrane sweep. It's like my only choices are wait indefinitely or go straight for the big guns at the hospital.

Discouraged, depressed, and really, really really freaking done.
post #2 of 21
Oh Mama, I'm sooo sorry. I can't imagine how frusterated you must be. I hope baby decided to come soon.
post #3 of 21
Lots and lots of hugs to you!
post #4 of 21
I can understand why you'd be frustrated. The baby can come at any time, even with no warning. My labors both started with no warning. And if it makes you feel any better, my midwives don't do any extra testing until 42 weeks. They assume everything is fine as long as the baby is moving and consider 37-42 weeks normal gestation.

I REALLY hope your baby comes soon--like tonight! Tonight would be good!
post #5 of 21
!

It's so hard when you're expecting an early baby, then go overdue! You probably feel way more overdue than you are, and that's a lot of emotional wear and tear ON TOP of pregnancy wear and tear.

Deep breath. It's, in all likelihood, just a few more days. On the outside chance, a week. Seven more days you can do, in order to have a safe birth and the best for your baby. It's just seven days, with a lifetime of that child ahead of you to make up for the hassle. Take them one at a time. You know that as soon as you hold your baby, as soon as you're in the whilrwind of newborn, you will absolutely forget how long it took to get through each of these days.

Can you talk to your doctor about how you're feeling? He sounds great. Even if he and you decide not to do anything to encourage labor (or if you can't), at least you'd be venting to the person who's on your birthing team. That can help.
post #6 of 21
I was there... I was SO there.

I mean... even the going to get induced stuff... I have NEVER been to the Naval hospital here, though I know my midwife used to work there and she would be able to tell me what doctors are worth it...

I was facing not only 42 weeks... but 42w3d before our first attempt at a natural induction, 42w5d at second attempt if first attempt failed and being past 43 weeks before we did pitocin induction

which was ... both frustrating AND good. because I did not want to have to be induced... so dearly did not. I was induced with DS and that labor was way worse than either of my DDs


41w6d I finally had her... but not before a lot of crying and wondering if I was broken (I wasnt) or if something was wrong with baby (she was totally fine) or if somehow I was off on my dates (no possible way, I charted and only had a 2 week period with DH, which I got my BFP at the end of... its pretty clear cut when I ovulated!)

just try sticking in there. I know it may not seem like it at all right now... but its just a matter of days now. If that. Really, baby will be here soon and before you know it you will be 10 days postpartum and wondering how its already been that long since she first entered your lives... and already starting to have not being pregnant feel normal.
post #7 of 21
Hugs to you mama!

I sooo feel your pain right now. I'm 42+4 tomorrow and starting to doubt I will ever have this baby. My midwife goes out of town next wednesday, so I am starting to freak out about that in addition to hitting 43 weeks. I went to 42+6 with my last, but reallly this time it seems sooooo much longer. I've even had my membranes stripped twice over the past week and its done nothing

Don't stress about not having anything going on yet. I didn't with ds and he came out in about 6hrs. This time I've been sitting at 4cm all week and still nothing. I wouldn't put much stock in the number if I was like 37weeks, but at almost 43...why am I not in freaking labor, YK?

I'll just echo what the others have said, it will happen! They all come out eventually, at least when you get this far along, you know it can really only be a week or 2 left
post #8 of 21
It IS so hard at the end. But it IS the end. You are almost there. You have climbed a super high mountain, and the gorgeous view is in just a few more steps. You are a wonderful Mama. You CAN do this. You ARE doing this.
post #9 of 21
Hang in there. It may be hard to believe at this point after so many days that didn't end up being "the" day, but you will have your baby soon. I continue to be surprised by how many of us in this DDC are gestating longer than we did with our previous ones.... don't those babies know what they are putting their mamas through!?
post #10 of 21
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Originally Posted by Just1More View Post
It IS so hard at the end. But it IS the end. You are almost there. You have climbed a super high mountain, and the gorgeous view is in just a few more steps. You are a wonderful Mama. You CAN do this. You ARE doing this.
Well said, J1M

Sending you . What is it they say, every day past is one day close to meeting your little one? Easier said than done, I know. Thinking of you.
post #11 of 21
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Originally Posted by RedOakMomma View Post
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Can you talk to your doctor about how you're feeling? He sounds great. Even if he and you decide not to do anything to encourage labor (or if you can't), at least you'd be venting to the person who's on your birthing team. That can help.
I think one of us (me or you) misread her post. I thought she said she didn't speak to the Dr in over a month? And it didn't sound like he was that great...maybe I'm confused.
post #12 of 21
From what I remember, in past posts he sounded pretty great. Very non-interventionist, laid back, and supportive. I think there was even some joking about wishing we could import him to the States...we need more doctors who trust women and trust women's bodies!
post #13 of 21
Thread Starter 
thanks, guys I'm feeling a little better today, I think. My husband has a 4 day weekend, and we're headed out to a festival, where I plan to visit an acupuncturist, and then I'm headed for a brutal Korean style foot massage, lol.

My doctor is amazing. I have spoken to him, I just haven't had any visits in his office. He says that there's no real reason (barring symptoms of complications, of course, which he made sure I was familiar with) for full term mamas to stress themselves with trips into his office...that what we need is time to relax, nest, and prepare unhindered for birth If Aiden's not here by Monday/Tuesday, I'll be headed down to Seoul for a NST, but he'll let me go another week after that before we start talking induction.

Word of the day is surrender. I need to. I'm going to make myself crazy if I don't, so that's my goal this weekend.
post #14 of 21
Thread Starter 
well, now I feel silly, lol. I emailed my doc yesterday whining, lol, and he emailed me back today and told me he's going to come over after he's done teaching his prenatal class today and bring his NST monitor. I wrote him back and told him to please not do that...I was having a really bad day yesterday, but I'm better today, and if baby doesn't come this weekend I'll see him next week. Goodness, I feel foolish.
post #15 of 21
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Originally Posted by tribord View Post
Hang in there. It may be hard to believe at this point after so many days that didn't end up being "the" day, but you will have your baby soon. I continue to be surprised by how many of us in this DDC are gestating longer than we did with our previous ones.... don't those babies know what they are putting their mamas through!?
No kidding! This DDC has been all about post-dates babies. It seemed like mid-September before we were really getting births every day or so.

Lots of s to you, mesa. MP is absolutely right. I thought our DS would NEVER come when I was nearly 42 weeks and now I'm like: whaaa? 3.5 weeks old? How did that happen? Trust your body! Trust yourself! Sending you baby-bringing and easy labor vibes!
post #16 of 21
I feel for ya mesa -- we're in the same boat (no pun intended). I am glad to hear you have supportive and sane caregivers. I am feeling really pressured by Medwives and the mainstream that my baby will expire like a carton of milk left in the sun if I go one minute past 42 weeks. Yeah, no pressure.

we can do it!
post #17 of 21
boatbaby and mesa, y'all are just waiting for the coolest birthdate of the year: 10/10/10. Heck, even 10/11/10 has a certain ring to it. 10/12/10, sure!
post #18 of 21
mesa -- this is for you...

some smart reading http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandsty...0-months/print

and a good laugh! (may not be appropriate to watch with other kids around)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xiPxXU02xOQ
post #19 of 21
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Originally Posted by RedOakMomma View Post
boatbaby and mesa, y'all are just waiting for the coolest birthdate of the year: 10/10/10. Heck, even 10/11/10 has a certain ring to it. 10/12/10, sure!
I agree I hope they're having babies today.. it's only fair to get the cool birth date after waiting so long!
post #20 of 21
Thread Starter 
thank you boatbaby That article helped me this morning!

42 weeks tomorrow. Feels like a cosmic joke, at this point. I told my husband that he owes me diamonds, lol...especially after he asked me for an induction this morning. Turd. s

My doc ended up not coming the other day...he told me that he would if I thought I needed him, but I'm having a hard time figuring out a good reason...it's a 2 hour drive for him, so IMO it needs to be something more substantial than just my discomfort level, you know? My ribs on my right side are seriously hurting me though. It feels like I'm being stabbed/burned in one spot about 4 inches square right below my sternum. The skin hurts too. It's almost like something is being pinched between my uterus and my rib cage...such a horrible feeling.

I was really hoping for a 10/10/10 birthday, especially since the 10th is my mom's birthday, but no luck...it's the 11th here now. My hubby is off from work through tomorrow, so hopefully he'll decide to make an appearance before he has to go back to work. He has 15 days of leave when Aiden's born, so he's starting to make me crazy with his anxiousness to have some time off, lol.

So, is it only me and boatbaby left?
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