When one parent doesn't care... - Page 2

[mamafish9]

Originally Posted by camprunner

Maybe I'm just super cautious but I feel like anytime we eat at a restaurant that also serves dishes with gluten in them, we are risking cross contamination, even if they have a gluten free menu and are super careful. Even if they have a gluten free menu and we haven't had a reaction, I feel that the 99% of the time, our meals should be at home in our gluten free kitchen. Right now, with being pregnant, I especially don't want to take a risk so I'll fix myself something at home when they go to a "safe" restuarant if at all possible. We don't eat a lot of processed food so we really do try to keep the risk down at home. DH believes that if the restaurant a gluten free menu and/or can verify the ingredients do not contain gluten and are not fried in the same fryer with gluten then it is completely safe as if it were our own kitchen. So it's not that he doesn't care, he's just of a different opinion.

I think there might be some room for compromise here. If a restaurant is careful, has a GF menu, and you haven't had a reaction, then it seems reasonable to eat there. Maybe figure out 2-3 restaurants that work for you (no reactions) and stick with them. No, it's not as safe as your own kitchen - but I'm not sure it's a big enough risk to take something your DH clearly enjoys completely out of your life.