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How do you feel about trick or treating and halloween?

post #1 of 105
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DH and I discussed this recently. When I was a kid we weren't allowed to go trick or treating. My mother said it wasn't safe and didn't like the idea of us "begging" (her word not mine) for treats. She's totally disgusted by Halloween. I recently asked DH how he feels about it. He says he never enjoyed trick or treating as a kid. It was boring and getting dressed in a costume was boring for him. I don't have any personal experiences with Halloween except I always wanted to get a costume and go trick or treating because that's what my friends were doing.

How do you all deal with Halloween and trick or treating?
post #2 of 105
I loved it as a kid, was sad when I couldn't do it anymore as a teen and am SUPER excited that DS is old enough to really, really GET it this year! I can't wait for Halloween! Now to get cracking on his costume!!
post #3 of 105
I LOVE it! It is so much fun, and I loved it as a kid. My DD is only 4, but she picks out her costume like 6 months in advance! My husband isn't so keen on it, he thinks it is an evil holiday from a religious standpoint (though he isnt very religious in practice). He refuses to dress up, but goes trick or treating with us. I don't think he would ever deny the kids this holiday if I wasn't around, but he could do without it.
post #4 of 105
It wasn't my favorite as a kid, I always seemed to get sick so I wouldn't go trick or treating, but I loved dressing up in my costume and handing out candy (I never had anything contagious, just a lot of tonsillitis.)

Now, I still find it kind of blah, but I LOVE watching my kids have fun. They enjoy it so much that it makes it fun for me!
post #5 of 105
I like it OK, I guess. At first, I used to have my dd make something (like color a picture) to bring to people, and we only went t houses where we knew the family. Then once she started trick-or-treating with friends, I stopped that. We only do a block or 2 though. I really don't want all the candy in the house. Just want her to have the experience and that's it.

This year, I am debating having some kids over for a Halloween party and then trick-or-treating afterward.
post #6 of 105
As a kid I loved going. The candy was great, but getting dressed up was even better.

We probably won't take the kids door to door this year. We do so many things with our other groups, Grandma's lake community, and the preschool that we really don't need another night of collecting candy. I lost count this year, they either have 4 or 5 different events where they are dressing up and collecting candy. That's more than enough IMO.
post #7 of 105
We go. We really enjoy it. The kids get costumes and we go to DH's parents house where we have a big family dinner, then go once around their block. After we're done, we come home (only 5 min away) and hand out candy to the neighborhood children.
We even do halloween type celebrations at the zoo, at our local park where there is a huge festival with live music and at ds's school in addition to the actual night.
post #8 of 105
I liked the dressing up and the being out at night with a flashlight and (because I am fundamentally nosy and always have been) the peeks into all the houses of people we didn't know so well. The candy was all right but it wasn't really the main thing, except for this one house that gave out cotton candy out of a machine (not that this would fly these days).

As an adult it kind of amazes me that a bunch of people who almost never agree on anything all agree to go spend money on candy to watch the kids in the neighbourhood's faces light up. I mean that, to me, is something special.

So yeah we do it. We don't make a huge huge deal of it but hey. Plus, I still get to dress up.
post #9 of 105
We don't do it. For religious reasons, but also because I just generally don't want my DS to make that big a deal out of candy. We don't eat junky candy on a regular basis so I feel like, why would I let him get a whole bunch of candy that I honestly don't want him to eat and he can't self-regulate how not to desperately want to eat it all in one setting? It's just not something that appeals to me. Right now, he's 3, and he is terrified of the costumes, etc anyway.

We do plan on going to a pumpkin patch and picking out some pumpkins to make pies, etc with, and going on their hay ride (well maybe, if it's not a scary Halloweeny thing, I don't know yet). We also will make caramel apples. So, in other words, we will do some fun fall things, but not necessarily on Halloween and not in celebration of it. We probably will do this this weekend actually.

DH and I both did all the Halloween stuff as kids. But when we discussed it after DS's birth, we realized that nothing really good ever came out of it, and it was more about doing what our friends did, or our parents keeping up with the neighbors, etc than it was about us actually having a great time. So that's where we're at. Plus, from a religious standpoint, it's just a no for us.
post #10 of 105
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Man, I feel like I missed out It sounds like so much fun. If DD is into it when she's older it's fine by us but I'd prefer she only trick or treat at the apartments/homes of people we know. Taking her trick or treating will let me make up for what I missed out on as a kid.
post #11 of 105
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Taking her trick or treating will let me make up for what I missed out on as a kid.
There are a lot of thing like this for me because I had a crappy childhood!

We love Halloween, and some years I even make the kids costumes. It's really wonderful in some neighborhoods -- lots of people are out, the parent chat, it's fun.
post #12 of 105
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post
There are a lot of thing like this for me because I had a crappy childhood!

We love Halloween, and some years I even make the kids costumes. It's really wonderful in some neighborhoods -- lots of people are out, the parent chat, it's fun.
Unfortunately, I know what you mean re the crappy childhood.

We're going to take DD to the Zoo's Halloween event. They have a "haunted house" and safari for the kids and certain trick or treating spots.

What costumes do you make?
post #13 of 105
I LOVED (& still do) the fun of thinking of a costume & making it & of course wearing it. I like Halloween parties & activities & directions. I REALLY didn't enjoy trick-or-treating, the candy yes, but the door to door was awful. It felt awkward to me & due to my height I got comments at a fairly young age that I must be too old at many doors.

I think when ds gets older I will give him the option but I think I will encourage a Halloween party over trick-or-treating.
post #14 of 105
Well, my birthday is the day before....so Halloween was and is always a major thing with me. My mom always made my costumes and she has made the last 2 for my son.
I mainly take my son to family houses (but I have loads of aunts/uncles etc).
post #15 of 105
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As an adult it kind of amazes me that a bunch of people who almost never agree on anything all agree to go spend money on candy to watch the kids in the neighbourhood's faces light up. I mean that, to me, is something special.

I love Halloween! It isn't really about the candy or the costumes for us. I love getting out and seeing my neighbors (we all usually sit on our front lawns to hand out candy). For some of the neighbors, it is the only time we see them all year. I have very fond memories of picking out/designing costumes with my mom and hanging out with the neighborhood kids while trick or treating. My parents let us eat candy that night and then the next day my dad would take the rest to work. We didn't even care because we had so much fun the night before.
I don't see Halloween as an "evil" event because we just don't give it that kind of power; we make it into what we want it to be: a great family bonding time!
post #16 of 105
I adore it. We have a family on our street who get really into it -- they file a request to have the street closed, and it's a big, family-oriented party for the neighbourhood. (Note to self: Remember to drop off thank you note for that family.) Last year the house on the corner hired a flame thrower, and everyone was just enthralled.

I loved it as a kid, too. And I'm type 1 diabetic and couldn't eat any of the candy I collected. I just liked being out at night, seeing everyone else out, walking around with my family, etc.
post #17 of 105
I hate Trick or Treating. I hate Halloween. I buy costumes for my children to play dress up in. But I am not comfy with them going door to door to get candy, I am not comfy with them eating candy-regardless of where it comes from, at least not that much candy. I am not comfortable with the dark yucky themes of Halloween. It makes me sad too. I see people do stupid haunted themes in their yards and spooky music and then I think of those that I loved who died (my grandpa, 2 of my baby sons) and I like to believe that this is not what death is or what death is like. I feel like it mocks the dead and mocks our passed on loved ones and makes a horrible disgusting thing of it. I just hate hate hate Halloween.
post #18 of 105
We love Halloween and trick or treating. I enjoyed it as a kid, too. The only thing I didn't like was how cold it almost always was when we lived in CO. Who wants to wear sweats under their costume and coats over it? But now that we live in NM, the weather isn't near as bad.
post #19 of 105
We love Halloween and trick or treating. Last year we ran out of candy and DD started giving out some of hers. She enjoys giving out candy as much as going door to door. We just go around our neighborhood and feel really safe. We usually go to a local trick or treating event at the mall or our local hospital too. We usually get a costume that DD can use as dress up clothes.
post #20 of 105
Way too much candy but I love being out in the neighborhood, seeing all the cute and excited kids.

When I was little (in a small town in Tx), all the moms made homebaked goodies like popcorn balls, cookies and you went home with all these amazing treats. (though I remember we were most excited about the rare person who did give out storebought candy, lol)
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