Originally Posted by Linda on the move
We move a lot for my DH's job but generally live in a newish neighborhood with houses close together, and we therefore always get kids who don't live in the neighborhood.
We live in an *old* neighborhood with houses *very* close together, and yes, we too always get kids who don't live in the neighborhood.
|I think it's all good. Kids who live in the country, in apartments, in no fun neighborhoods, etc. can come walk around and enjoy the decorations and grownups sitting in lawn chairs handing out candy.
That describes our neighborhood on Halloween.
I don't mind any of that.
|I'd really hate to be such a neighborhood snob that I could only buy candy for the kids in my neighborhood. That's just.... icky.
My position came across over several posts, so I feel it has been lost. I have not said anything about buying candy only for the kids in my neighborhood (nor has anyone else).
In fact, in one of my first posts about this, I specifically said how much I enjoyed having ~200 kids my first year in this house (and we "closed shop" a little early for our kids to go to bed), knowing that many were not from my neighborhood.
I don't mind kids coming from other neighborhoods.
My position in regard to the "good" it does for neighborhoods to come together as communities and participate rather than driving kids elsewhere has nothing to do with the welcome I feel toward kids from elsewhere when they come to my neighborhood. I know it is not always possible to trick-or-treat in one's own neighborhood, and I adore the chance to see these kids in my neck of the woods.
What I was trying to say is that I DO think trick-or-treating is good for communities, and helps make them safer, which is why I advocate that neighborhoods try to make a tradition of it. And I DO hope that folks stay in their neighborhoods for that reason...for the reason of creating community among neighbors.
But I feel joy to have kids come into my 'hood and love the chance to say hello, whatever neighborhood they come from.
That said, as I have stated a couple of times, what bothers me is when parents drive their kids from neighborhood to neighborhood (and especially when they do it house to house) in search of the most candy
I remember this from when I was a kid too. One of my friend's had a mom who was always like "Let me take you to [name a neighborhood]. We can totally score there!" My friend was in my own neighborhood and there were plenty of treats there (even in the apartment and condo complexes and buildings where we lived). It didn't seem kid-motivated until later. In the young years, it was always my friend's mom.
I think this kind of parental attitude cultivates a spirit of greed about the whole thing in families, and I saw that manifested in my neighborhood some a couple of years ago and a whole LOT this last year in examples I gave in my posts. When I turned out the lights early, it had to have been bad because like I said, I love Halloween and am a very patient person with other people's kids...especially those learning to be kind.