Originally Posted by Mackenzie
Additionally, I think it is, or should be, of greater priority for people with less means to have a cleaner, more organized home. I speak from (LOTS of) experience when I say that a poorly kept home costs money too. Things get lost, and have to be purchased again. Things don't get taken care of, stepped on, maintained, and have to be replaced or repaired.... btdt. A lot.
I totally get this.
|One time my very good friend walked in (I was expecting her) while I was mopping the kitchen floor. She said, "I hope you're not doing that just because I was coming over," and I said, "Well, kind of." She sort of looked sad and said "You know, it's funny, but that makes me feel a little less welcome. You don't have to clean just because I'm coming."
I'm of two minds about this. 1) Friends have said the very same thing to me. My response is, 'Hey, no problem, I need the motivation to get it done. It doesn't get done otherwise.' And I mean it most sincerely.
My house tends towards very messy and dirty. But when I was hosting a Girl Scout troop every other week, well, at least the dining room/entry way and the bathroom were getting tidied and cleaned every two weeks. And the couple of days after, while those rooms were still neat and clean, were just lovely.
2) I have this girlfriend that I really admire. She's a totally together woman: organized, creative, just plain smart. She invited me over to have coffee once and sheepishly said something about the enormous
mountain of laundry on the couch, and she laughed and said something about 'honoring me' by letting me see the mess. It was an epiphany and I did, indeed, feel honored.
So I've found a balance between the two sentiments. I don't mind doing a mad cleaning session before people come over, because, well, the house needs it anyway. It helps that I don't have complete anxious breakdowns during these cleaning sessions anymore. And I've been around long enough now to know that many people coming to my home are thinking the same thing I am, when I visit them: oh wow, she's messy too!
I hope she knows that's OK with me.