Has this happened to you? Am I the only one??????????????? - Page 2

[cm123456]

Thank you so much!

I will let you know how it goes tomorrow morning.

I hope it is just a diet thing. Maybe needing to take in more fat because I am vegetarian and not anything else.

Thanks again!

[EdnaMarie]

You do not need to go on estrogen. <---ETA I meant to qualify that with, JUST to get a period back if the doctor believes that everything else is normal.

If there are no cysts and the PAP was normal, and they don't think an ultrasound is indicated, seriously consider whether you NEED your period for a few months. I lost mine for something like ten months (!), three of those I was underweight. I got it back several months after getting the weight back on, and I am very fertile now... well two kids and very little trying all things considered.

Your body is probably just saying, "We are not ready to make a baby right now. Too much pressure, too little body fat." That's okay for now. Yoga, relaxation, do something for yourself, eat at least one really good caloric meal a day, and you will do okay.



(PS... I am sorry to say but this is actually something that if you posted on an eating disorder board, you would realize is quite common among very thing women. So though it's rare among healthy women eating to have children, it's not at all unusual for an underweight woman under stress not to be fertile.)

[cm123456]

Originally Posted by EdnaMarie

You do not need to go on estrogen. If there are no cysts and the PAP was normal, and they don't think an ultrasound is indicated, seriously consider whether you NEED your period for a few months. I lost mine for something like ten months (!), three of those I was underweight. I got it back several months after getting the weight back on, and I am very fertile now... well two kids and very little trying all things considered.

Your body is probably just saying, "We are not ready to make a baby right now. Too much pressure, too little body fat." That's okay for now. Yoga, relaxation, do something for yourself, eat at least one really good caloric meal a day, and you will do okay.



(PS... I am sorry to say but this is actually something that if you posted on an eating disorder board, you would realize is quite common among very thing women. So though it's rare among healthy women eating to have children, it's not at all unusual for an underweight woman under stress not to be fertile.)

I do NEED my period! I hate the thought of my body being so unhealthy!
I want to be able to have the choice weather or not I want kids. Not have my body decide.

I didn't think that I had lost much weight...I have been eating a lot better lately and trying to take it easy.

I think that stress played a major roll as well. I have never been so stressed. Just graduated, just got married, moved, started a company, Family issues (A LOT) ... It has really been a lot lately.

I understand what you are saying. I posted here because I didn't know where else to post.
I do eat quite a bit. For sure "normal". I just don't get a lot of FAT in my diet because I am a Vegetarian and eat a lot of soy.

Thank you again!

[EdnaMarie]

I eat a lot but I have a high metabolism. So I understand.

I know it feels like you need your period, but estrogen pills and injections are not necessarily going to return you to health. They will just mask the lack of estrogen in your body, which is a natural, normal result and a way your body is dealing with stress.

The cure is relaxation and nutrition, is all I'm saying. If estrogen helps you relax, so be it.

What are you doing to alleviate stress? Can you get a counselor just to verbally vomit your stress all over her? Yoga? Light exercise?

[cm123456]

Originally Posted by EdnaMarie

I eat a lot but I have a high metabolism. So I understand.

I know it feels like you need your period, but estrogen pills and injections are not necessarily going to return you to health. They will just mask the lack of estrogen in your body, which is a natural, normal result and a way your body is dealing with stress.

The cure is relaxation and nutrition, is all I'm saying. If estrogen helps you relax, so be it.

What are you doing to alleviate stress? Can you get a counselor just to verbally vomit your stress all over her? Yoga? Light exercise?

I have a high metabolism as well and so do my sisters and I am vegetarian so I eat a lot but it usually consists of not super fattening foods.

I totally understand! Maybe forcing it is not a good idea.
I took provera because the midwife told me to...
I guess I was thinking maybe they would have an "answer"...
I read that some women need to take provera two times because the first time
did work or they had a thick lining because of the missed periods. I don't know. I guess I was hoping there was an easy answer. But you are right. Relaxing and eating right and trying to unwind and it will come back.

I am not sure what they will say tomorrow... estrogen, relax, provera....
Either way I am going to take your advice and gain a few pounds and RELAX!

As far a de-stressing I haven't been doing much up until the last week or two.
My husband is enforcing Sundays off work.
We work Tuesday - Sunday
and we used to work Noon until Midnight everyday but now until 9pm. So that has helped.
I try to relax on my day off but usually end up cleaning because we don't get home until 9pm
and then eat and go to bed. There is hardly any time to clean, do dishes...

I have been thinking about Yoga too. I think I will start doing that on my day off...

I have been talking a lot more lately about all that is going on with my husband so I think that will help a lot in the long run as well. I am also starting a journal.

Overall it sounds like you are totally right and I can't tell you how much better you have made me feel!
Thank you for taking the time to talk to me!
It really has helped!

[EdnaMarie]

No prob, I know how worried I was when it happened to me especially about infertility and that was a long time ago. Glad I could help!

[cm123456]

Okay...Turns out that everything looks fine.
They are doing blood work for two other things...
I forget what the are called but it has something to do with your brain sending the message to have a period or not. Not sure what they were called.

Anyways, I will be starting birth control.
I am going to get lutera 28 because they didn't have Alesse 28.

Has anyone taken lutera?
Also I take Tetracycline for acne. Can I keep taking this?
The Midwife say that I could as long as I took the tetracycline at least a few hours before the birth control. Does that sound right?

Thank you again everyone!

[chlobo]

Honestly, I wouldn't take birth control if I were you.

If you really want your body to be healthy to have children then I would focus on what is going to make it be healthy naturally and not force something with drugs. The things the previous posters have said:

light exercise
yoga
Other stress reduction
gaining some weight or at least adjusting your diet to get more fat

Some ways to get more fat:

Nuts & seeds
Healthy oils - olive & coconut oil
Avocado
Flax seed oil
Palm oil or shortening

If you eat eggs & milk then adding those as well.

Anything else is just going to mask the problem and make you feel like you are healthy when you are not.

[cm123456]

Originally Posted by chlobo

Honestly, I wouldn't take birth control if I were you.

If you really want your body to be healthy to have children then I would focus on what is going to make it be healthy naturally and not force something with drugs. The things the previous posters have said:

light exercise
yoga
Other stress reduction
gaining some weight or at least adjusting your diet to get more fat

Some ways to get more fat:

Nuts & seeds
Healthy oils - olive & coconut oil
Avocado
Flax seed oil
Palm oil or shortening

If you eat eggs & milk then adding those as well.

Anything else is just going to mask the problem and make you feel like you are healthy when you are not.

I have/am going to keep eating healthy and relaxing a bit more.

My doctor didn't seem to think it was anything with weight but I am going to put on a few lbs and relax more....

I think the birth control and relaxing / eating better are all good things that will help.
When I am ready I will stop birth control and my husband and I will have kids.

Until then I am going to take care of my body and keep with birth control.

Thanks!