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post #21 of 56
OP I'm so sorry. Ah that is so tragic and sad.
post #22 of 56
I'm so sorry
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I'm so sorry

post #24 of 56
I'm so sorry. It sounds like you are doing a great job of processing this- as much as anyone can process something so tragic, anyway.
post #25 of 56
oh mama, I am so sorry.
peace and love to you and your family at this time.
ELizabeth
post #26 of 56
I am so sorry for your loss and all of the stress you are experiencing MDC mamas are thinking of you.
My mother died when I was 12, and some of her family members (including her parents) behaved in obnoxious and strange ways, as well. Being young, I didn't have to directly deal with it, but now as an adult I still don't understand why they acted that way. Well, truthfully, some people just suck, and the people who were jerks about my mother's death were jerks in their regular lives as well. (Not saying your family members are being that way, but mine certainly were.) That's the only way I've been able to explain it to myself. I hope that this tragic event comes to a peaceful conclusion for you.
post #27 of 56
I'm so sorry for your family loss

Hugs, mama
post #28 of 56
I am so sorry.



-Melanie
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
post #31 of 56
I am so sorry.
post #32 of 56
So sorry.
post #33 of 56
Oh, no, I am so sorry. Wishing you and your family peace.
post #34 of 56
I'm so verry sorry! This is such a difficult situation, with out all the added family drama.
Sending you Strength to endure these tough days ahead. I also wish you strength to grieve in a way that allows you to heal. If you need some time away from your extended family- take it. You need to care for your self momma. You are in my thoughts...
post #35 of 56
I am so sorry. My BIL died right about 8 years ago from an accidental gunshot wound while drinking and using drugs with "friends". It was really hard for DH as to be expected. It was his youngest brother and he left behind a small child. I wish you peace and healing.
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I am terribly sorry.
post #38 of 56
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Originally Posted by MommaMoo View Post
My mother died when I was 12, and some of her family members (including her parents) behaved in obnoxious and strange ways, as well. Being young, I didn't have to directly deal with it, but now as an adult I still don't understand why they acted that way. Well, truthfully, some people just suck, and the people who were jerks about my mother's death were jerks in their regular lives as well. (Not saying your family members are being that way, but mine certainly were.)
It was my grandmother that passed when I was 12, but THIS is what happened here, too. Some people were just... off... in the way they handled things. I recall being particularly disturbed by an older family member screaming out of the blue, wailing, tearing at her hair and throwing herself on the ground. Yet my grandmother's death was expected. A little later I realized this hysterical woman was stumbling drunk - she'd come to view my grandmother's body in that condition. There were several other family members who were drunk at the funeral, and a few oddballs who were behaving in completely inappropriate ways while sober.

I know none of this is what's happening to you, but I suppose I'm just trying to illustrate that extreme situations often bring out extreme behavior. And sometimes, it just serves to accentuate already extreme mannerisms in the people we have to deal with. I am so very sorry you have lost your brother, and I think you are behaving normally and processing this unexpected loss the best way you can FOR YOU. Be angry, cry, walk, pray, whatever you must, but most of all, be gentle to yourself. You've been through a lot.

((((HUGS))))

post #39 of 56
Could read without sending hugs. Last year my 25 year old BIL overdosed in his parents house and was found dead by his mother. A year later, DH is still grieving and the anger of the situation surrounding his death is still right at the surface. I hope you find peace and I am so sorry for your loss.
post #40 of 56

Peace to you and your family, mama.
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