Frustrated!!

[hazelnut316]

I just got a message from a cousin who just had a little girl. They are coming to a family function this weekend and she said that her ped has recommended that her daughter not be around any children who haven't been vaccinate, which includes my kids. I don't even know what to say to that! She's actually safer BECAUSE they haven't been vaccinated. It hurts my feelings......like they are being shut out for my decision to keep them healthy. What would you say to a family member who says that?

[NaturalBirthGoddes]

Wow...I would be speechless, too. I would ask about if it's safe to have the baby around adults who are out-of-date with their vaccines, as well. Other than that...I would let her do what she needs to do...it wouldn't stop my plans anyways.

[Mama~Love]

Originally Posted by NaturalBirthGoddes

Wow...I would be speechless, too. I would ask about if it's safe to have the baby around adults who are out-of-date with their vaccines, as well. Other than that...I would let her do what she needs to do...it wouldn't stop my plans anyways.

Which might be the mom herself. I'd still go, and have a great time!

[2boyzmama]

As I've learned as a mom with a son with an immune deficiency...it's impossible to keep them in a box. Even if she avoids your kids, she has to go to the grocery store at some time, or out to eat, or even to the ped's office! That baby will come into contact with all types of people every day of her life and her immune system will be better off for it.

If the mom wants to avoid your kids, then SHE should be the one who doesn't go to the function. She wasn't asking you to not go, was she?

[chaoticzenmom]

Was she actually calling to tell you not to come? Is she in charge of this event? If it's something that neither of you is attending and you have been invited by the organizer of the group, I would attend as I had previously intended. If it's her party, then I'd stay away.

I'd be frustrated as well.

[chaoticzenmom]

What would I say to a family member like that? I'd say "I'm sorry that you feel that way. I'm doing the best that I can to raise my children according to my conscience. I will be attending with my children and I hope to see you there as well."