Hey everyone!
So I'm not married yet but I am have been in a relationship with a man for a year and a half. The truth is he has two kids by two different women. I know, I'm nuts right?! But love is love and I've never thought of kids as baggage. I have met the son, who's eight and we get along great. The Bio-Mom and I get along great too. I've known the son (Dom) for over a year and even helped coach his little league team. Dom's mom and I hug, talk and can just chill for hours. It's really weird to some people but it is truly a blessing. I'm so happy that she is so amazing.
However, the other mom is wretched. To make my point, I have never met his daughter. First, I didn't meet her out of courtesy to the bio-Mom. With Dom, I wanted to meet the mom first so that she knew who I was ans who her son was going to be around. With the daughter... I don't really see that happening. He is going to court to enforce parenting time because she will not allow the daughter to see her father over some petty non-sense... basically because he's in a relationship with me. Outrageous!
But everything will be sorted out with the daughter in a few weeks. My fiance and I live together now and I'm so nervious about meeting the daughter. Does anyone have any advice on how to introduce myself? She'll probably be staying the night and well, we live together. Do I go on as if nothing has changed? I don't want to shock this poor child and I don't want to isolate her. I want her to feel welcomed and try to make it not such an intimidating experience as possible.
Anyone got any advice?
Thanks for welcoming me to your community and I hope to be a full Stepmom sometime soon!!!
So I'm not married yet but I am have been in a relationship with a man for a year and a half. The truth is he has two kids by two different women. I know, I'm nuts right?! But love is love and I've never thought of kids as baggage. I have met the son, who's eight and we get along great. The Bio-Mom and I get along great too. I've known the son (Dom) for over a year and even helped coach his little league team. Dom's mom and I hug, talk and can just chill for hours. It's really weird to some people but it is truly a blessing. I'm so happy that she is so amazing.
However, the other mom is wretched. To make my point, I have never met his daughter. First, I didn't meet her out of courtesy to the bio-Mom. With Dom, I wanted to meet the mom first so that she knew who I was ans who her son was going to be around. With the daughter... I don't really see that happening. He is going to court to enforce parenting time because she will not allow the daughter to see her father over some petty non-sense... basically because he's in a relationship with me. Outrageous!
But everything will be sorted out with the daughter in a few weeks. My fiance and I live together now and I'm so nervious about meeting the daughter. Does anyone have any advice on how to introduce myself? She'll probably be staying the night and well, we live together. Do I go on as if nothing has changed? I don't want to shock this poor child and I don't want to isolate her. I want her to feel welcomed and try to make it not such an intimidating experience as possible.
Anyone got any advice?
Thanks for welcoming me to your community and I hope to be a full Stepmom sometime soon!!!
Hello and welcome to MDC!!!
Welcome to Mothering!
Welcome to MDC! 
