Okay... so I had to testify. I testified about when I noticed the visitations stopped, why I think they stopped and if my DP was intentionally avoiding his daughter.
Talk about the most uncomfortable situation to be in. My DP's attorney was shocked when I told him we had been dating for over a year and half and I never met the daughter. I told him the reason was because I respected the mom and wanted to meet her first. Well... that went out the door when I was asked to testify. both sides couldn't agree on one thing. the best part was that the court saw how manipulative she was/is and how none of her stories added up and that she was the one being inconsistent. The court told both parties to submit thier proposals and he would reach a decision in 10 days... UGH!!!
He asked to see her this weekend and was rebuffed. But then... oh... Saturday... she text that the daughter wants to see the dad. My DP tries to find something for them to do and we had his son this weekend. They finally agree to go bowling. My heartbroke!!!! I hate hate hate this. I hate that they get together and "family" things and I'm left out. Am I being selfish... slightly yes... but I'm not a secret and she has "met" me. So today they were bowling and I told him that I wanted to go and join them. My rationale was that the court is making a decision in 10days and me showing up is not going to change that. So with my DP's permission I "stopped by." We said that I was in the area and was stopping in to say hello and to meet her properly and to meet the DSD.
Wel... as you can imagine it did not go so well. I showed up she saw me and said, "We did not agree to this and we're leaving." I told her I would leave, that I was in the area and I wanted to meet her. She said, "I don't ever want to meet you and as far as i'm concerned you're a whore."
I told her "Nice language infront of the kids." and left.
So yeah... I got called a whore infront of the kids... nice huh?! At least I know what I'm dealing with and not to pursue anything related to her. I'm having my DP call his attorney when he gets home.
Maybe it was wrong to go but I really don't know. My DP and DSS are my family... they are all I have up here. I hope my DP stood up for me when I left, because I stood up for him and stood by him through all kinds of garbage. I just cant' handle the "family" activities going on and me not be involved. I don't know how much more I can take.
What do you ladies think?!