Restorative Circles--Transforming Sibling Conflict

[umsami]

This article was recommended on an NVC parenting group I'm on. Looks really easy to implement.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ng-camaraderie

I've cut a lot of this out in an effort to get under 100 words (copyright laws). Hopefully this will entice you to read the full article.

1. CREATE A SPACE

Take a deep calming breath and interrupt the dispute as early as possible in its cycle, if you believe it is escalating. Create a physical or emotional space between them, if needed.

2. MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING

...Your tools for this phase are simply:

"What do you want X to know?" "What do you hear Y saying?" "Is that it?"

3. ACTION PLAN

... you get THEM to problem solve while you sit back and enjoy....

Your tools for this phase are simply:

"Does anyone have any ideas for how to solve this issue?" "Does that work for you?"

[titania8]

thank you very much.

[Dancianna]

Would you be willing to share how to find such an NVC parenting group, or an nvc forum that has lots of use?  I'm in Minnesota and we have lots of NVC happening, and I love it, but nothing active on-line.

Also, I really like the quote you posted.  Wish I'd had it years ago.

-Dancy

Originally Posted by umsami 

This article was recommended on an NVC parenting group I'm on. Looks really easy to implement.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ng-camaraderie

I've cut a lot of this out in an effort to get under 100 words (copyright laws). Hopefully this will entice you to read the full article.

1. CREATE A SPACE

Take a deep calming breath and interrupt the dispute as early as possible in its cycle, if you believe it is escalating. Create a physical or emotional space between them, if needed.

2. MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING

...Your tools for this phase are simply:

"What do you want X to know?" "What do you hear Y saying?" "Is that it?"

3. ACTION PLAN

... you get THEM to problem solve while you sit back and enjoy....

Your tools for this phase are simply:

"Does anyone have any ideas for how to solve this issue?" "Does that work for you?"

[broodymama]

Thank you for this link!  We've been having a lot of conflict lately and I've been looking for a better way to handle them.

[mich]

Dh and I have fallen into a slump and have been yelling at the kids when they fight. Just like a "knock it off now" shut down. I know this is not helping their relationship. The last week or so I have been working so hard to go to where they are, get eye contact from both, and diffuse the situation. These phrases will be very useful, thank you!