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How do you handle your children telling strangers about plans for your first homebirth?

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10/12/10 at 9:57pm
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Edited by maotmsmi - 5/21/11 at 9:36am
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post #2 of 5
10/12/10 at 10:24pm
Well if its strangers, then they have no idea that its an HBA2C.. just that its a home birth. Thats a little less "radical". People from church, friends, etc.. well, hopefully if your ds very excitedly and enthusiastically blabbed about it, they'd have enough filter to, even if they disagreed, not gasp in horror in front of him? I yelled that I was HBACing from the roof tops. I got 2 kinds of responses: the "oh, awesome!" type and the "better you than me" type. Oh and also a few, "oh, you can do that? I didn't know you could" and some from older generations, "when I was having babies, we didn't have a choice, we had to have a rcs"
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post #3 of 5
10/13/10 at 1:06am
Ha! Sounds like my enthusiastic Dh! I would love to just go with the flow and not bring up my birth plans unless specifically asked, but he has always told everyone (including strangers!) about our plans to homebirth. My DD1 is now old enough to blab too -- it's not so bad really, most people are polite, especially to kids who are excited. But then, I do live in a pretty homebirth friendly area, so most people are at least familiar with the option.
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10/13/10 at 10:36am
I have found, while working as a homebirth midwife apprentice, that many clients are Christians. They believe that God made their bodies perfectly for birthing babies. Just be honest with people, you can simply say, Yes that's what we decided. If only choosing a name were so easy to strangers, and explain your reasoning to close friends or family. People's reactions are their concern, not yours. When in our lives are people allowed to inject their opinions on our personal decisions except during pregnancy. This is a time when women/famililes deserve the most respect and privacy, and it seems we get less. Like, how big you are, how your body looks, what symptoms you have, what doctor/midwife you see etc. Can you imagine everyone at church commenting on that stuff while you weren't pregnant?! Tell people as much as you want to, and don't worry about what they think. For what its worth, I am AMAZED at your trust in your body and am thrilled for you!
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10/14/10 at 8:21pm
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Edited by maotmsmi - 5/21/11 at 12:05pm
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