Do You Think My Doctor Will Do This?

[roslyn]

Here's the thing, I'm 46 years old and this is my miracle pregnancy after a few losses. I only knew one person close to my age who was pregnant, and today she lost hers at 24 weeks, no heartbeat. To be honest, I was using her pregnancy to gauge the likelihood of success with my pregnancy, now I'm absolutely distraught. I have a doctor's appointment next week, but I desperately need to go in tomorrow just be sure my baby is okay. Unfortunately my uterus is prolapsed and they can't use the doppler, I'd have to have an ultrasound. Would they think I'm absolutely crazy if I call and ask them to do this? Back in my hometown my ob would've done it no problem, but now we're in a large city with a huge practice, and I've only known this doctor and year. This is my first pregnancy with her. I just feel like I'm losing my mind. I've just got to know.

[HeatherB]

How far along are you, mama? I think you should be able to call your doctor with your concerns at any point. I know when I've had concerns my MW has encouraged me to do whatever is necessary to allay those, as the stress of being so worried is not good for you or the baby. While the likelihood of a problem with your pregnancy is slim (obviously you and your friend are not the same mama and not having the same pregnancy), if you are still stressing tomorrow then I think it's worth calling and asking for a quick peace-of-mind check.

[lach]

My personal rule was "one irrational freakout per trimester where I demanded they do everything possible to assure me that everything was okay."

So I say go for it I totally promise you that yours won't be the only phone call that day from someone who would like them to check them out, just based on paranoia. They're used to it and I think that most OBs would much rather take a worry seriously than brush off a potential problem.

[lexapurple]

With my first I had a scare moment and my MW has arranged a NST for me that same evening. I think you should at least try to get in. Can you feel your baby move? It in itself should be reasuring.

[roslyn]

I'm only eleven weeks along, so no movement yet. I'm feeling somewhat better this morning, but I've still got this overriding fear. Logically I know there's no reason anything would be wrong, but I think I am going to call when the office opens this morning. Maybe just talking to the nurse practitioner will help.

[Buddhamom]

I know some what of how you feel. I am 40 and unexpectedly pregnant with a miracle baby after a loss 7.5 years ago then a diag. of infertility. I am so scared everytime I read about blighted ovums, miscarriages and the statistics of someone my age. I am petrified because I know if something happens this is the last chance for me. I am trying to just relax and enjoy which is easier said than done. I am still early (6 weeks today) and haven't seen a heartbeat yet, just the gest. sac and beginning of yolk sac at exactly 5 weeks so you are doing better than me so keep the faith and hang in there!!!!! I am trying to hijack your thread, just letting you know that there is someone out there that totally gets what you are feeling/fear

[kalamos23]

it's okay to freakout and demand something. that is what you are paying them for. this is pregnancy directly after a loss and after 3 losses in a row for me, and tbh, i'm okay with the ob thinking i am being a crazy hormonal pregnant lady. i had betas at 4w6d, 5w1d and 6w0d and u/s at 6w6d, 8w1d and 10w5d - i'm going in today at 12w and will ask for a doppler - i think the stress of not knowing is worse, so you do whatever you need to to alleviate that stress, mama.

also, just to give you some hope, my mom had my brother at age 45.

[roslyn]

I talked with the nurse practitioner and she assured me that I can come in any time I want. If they can't find it on the doppler they'll do ultrasound. They'd much rather I have peace of mind than make myself sick with worry. Oddly enough, after I heard that I instantly felt better and decided to just wait until Tuesday. She acted as though talking to paranoid pregnant women is the most commonplace thing in the world. I guess for her it is.

[lexapurple]

Glad to hear that.

[lach]

Originally Posted by roslyn

I talked with the nurse practitioner and she assured me that I can come in any time I want. If they can't find it on the doppler they'll do ultrasound. They'd much rather I have peace of mind than make myself sick with worry. Oddly enough, after I heard that I instantly felt better and decided to just wait until Tuesday. She acted as though talking to paranoid pregnant women is the most commonplace thing in the world. I guess for her it is.

As a 3-time paranoid pregnant woman, I bet it is

I have to say that about where you are now until I felt the baby kick was sooooo paranoid for me for at least my first two pregnancies. I had had several m/c and was very paranoid. Around 11-12 weeks, all my 1st trimester symptoms cleared up... and it's not for another 6-8 weeks before you can do the trick where you drink orange juice and lie on your left side and feel for kicks. I don't think that there's anything uncommon about being very paranoid during pregnancy, particularly if you've had a history of fertility issues and/or loss.

[tzs]

glad it worked out.
plus, i think if it's a big practice with an ultrasound they love doing that stuff anyway. they can always squeeze you in AND they can bill insurance for the scan.

[roslyn]

I am trying to hijack your thread, just letting you know that there is someone out there that totally gets what you are feeling/fear

Not a hijack at all. Just glad to know that I'm not totally insane.

I have to say that about where you are now until I felt the baby kick was sooooo paranoid for me for at least my first two pregnancies.

Exactly! Once I can feel the baby move I'm usually okay, but during this lull where I'm really not having any symptom anymore is driving me insane.

...and it's not for another 6-8 weeks before you can do the trick where you drink orange juice and lie on your left side and feel for kicks.

Cool. I hadn't heard about this trick, I'll have to try it.