Feeling guilty- something nice to do for DH?

[expat-mama]

I feel so guilty sometimes that I get to stay home with DS. YES it's totally hard work and my days (and nights) are long and sometimes stressful and even sometimes awful.
But DH has been hating his job and really suffering from it. Stress, sleeplessness- I'm worried about him falling into a depression. For many reasons (including that we just had DS and I'm home with him...) he's stuck at this job for another TWO years. I feel terrible for him.

Anyone else feel like this about their DP working? How do you deal with the guilt? How do you make their daily life better?

I'm aching to just make it all go away for DH. I wish we could all stay home together.

[Learning_Mum]

I try to have a smile on my face, a kiss and a hug and a 'how was your day?' when he walks through the door. Make sure the house is picked up (or as much as it can be with a 5yo and 2yo!). Have dinner ready shortly after he gets home. Make him cups of tea. Give him lots of cuddles and head rubs. Tell him how much I love him and appreciate what he does.

[CherryBombMama]

Originally Posted by Learning_Mum

I try to have a smile on my face, a kiss and a hug and a 'how was your day?' when he walks through the door. Make sure the house is picked up (or as much as it can be with a 5yo and 2yo!). Have dinner ready shortly after he gets home. Make him cups of tea. Give him lots of cuddles and head rubs. Tell him how much I love him and appreciate what he does.

yes yes yes! only my dh would crack up if i gave him tea ... its beer for that man!

[MamaPhD]

DH loves his job but it's crazy long hours for him. So we make sure DD gets short & sweet quality daddy time. Usually DH and DD will play (without me) in the morning before DH goes to work. Also we signed up for a music class & bought an extra car seat for daddy's car so it's DH & DD special saturday morning out. I also upload DD's pictures on line on our photosite so DH can glance them while at work. If anyone can cheer up DH, it's DD - not sure if I should feel sad about that, though, huh?

[3xMama]

Extra loving. Make sure he knows you are there for him to lean on and make sure he gets time in with your kiddo. I'd even look into whats keeping him at his current place and whether or not he can find a different job. Do it under the radar and if it appears he can, present him with the information. That way, if it doesn't work out he never knew/be upset about it and if it does, he'll feel the loving. Not knowing your situation I don't know if that's feasible, but it never hurts to look.