How-to for bedsharing

[sunwise]

Hi all,
I am very interested in bedsharing with my LO, and maybe I'm overthinking things, but I don't really know the best way to do it! Like, where exactly does the baby go, what to do about blankets, what size/firmness of mattress should I have, etc.? Can you tell me how you handle bedsharing so I can get some inspiration? Thanks!

[CherryBombMama]

Originally Posted by sunwise

Hi all,
I am very interested in bedsharing with my LO, and maybe I'm overthinking things, but I don't really know the best way to do it! Like, where exactly does the baby go, what to do about blankets, what size/firmness of mattress should I have, etc.? Can you tell me how you handle bedsharing so I can get some inspiration? Thanks!

the best way to do it is the way that you feel most comfortable! i honestly didnt feel comfortable bed sharing w/ my first ds. so the first few months, he was in his pack in play or crib. once in a while when i wanted him near me, he slept in bed w/ us, usually on my side, and i just held on tight to make sure he wouldnt fall.

once he was a little older (5 months or so) he would start out in his crib (that was right next to our bed) and once we went to bed, he would join us. at first it was on my side with a rail, then he would sleep in between us. this lasted for a long time, until about a year old or so, when we sidecarred the crib. we just put the crib next to the wall, and pushed our bed against the crib. we didnt take any special precautions because there were no cracks for him to fall through and it felt safe for us. now at 18 months, he sleeps in the middle of us, no side car, and his baby brother (6 weeks) sleep directly next to me in the PnP.

[CherryBombMama]

oh i didnt really answer your questions. lol

with blankets, we kept our comforter, but we had it low around our hips when he was immobile. the more mobile and verbel (baby-talk kind of verbel) the higher the blanket got and the more relaxed we were with the pillows. when you bedshare, you are very aware that a baby is there. i could tell when he would roll over. our mattress is firm.

we just made sure nothing could block his airways, and actually, the few times a blanket has made its way up to his mouth/nose, i INSTANTLY woke up because i felt something was wrong.