School problems -- 7 y.o. dd with aspergers, teacher not on board

[Treasuremapper]

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[rainbringer]

i am so sorry that happened. I don't understand why people just can't explain things before they happen. Aren't some NT kids upset by stuff like that too?

The only thing I can think of is going to the principal, and if that doesn't work, the superintendent. Since the teacher won't talk to you, I don't see what else you can do.

[straighthaircurly]

Huge hugs! This sounds like an awful situation. From your post, it sounds like you have been trying to communicate with the teacher and have been ignored. Do you know any of the other parents in the class who you could discuss your DD;s experiences and see how it is going for their child? Sounds like this teacher expects every kid to fit a particular mold which we all know doesn't work very well, so other parents may be seeing issues as well. How is this teacher viewed by other teachers at the school? Is it a specific teacher issue or is there a school wide attitude toward kids with special needs? Are there otther staff who can help you? Is the principal an easy person to approach with concerns?

I pose these questions as an opening for you to think through whether this school will work for your DD or whether you need to be seeking other options. Personally, I like to be pursuing multiple solutions at one time so that if one option dead ends I am not starting from scratch.

Since you have already tried dealing directly with the teacher, I would ask for a meeting with you, the teacher, and the principal...face-to-face. Have a list of your specific observations and concerns. If your daughter has had any OT or PT or other services outside school, ask those therapists to provide a list of recommended accommodations. We did this for our son's sensory processing issues. The teacher looked over the list and was willing to meet as many of those recommendations as possible even without a formal plan in place. Also come in prepared with reasonable solutions that you may or may not bring up depending on how the meeting goes.

[Greenmama2]

Originally Posted by rainbringer

i am so sorry that happened. I don't understand why people just can't explain things before they happen. Aren't some NT kids upset by stuff like that too?

Yep, I would have been. Only I think perhaps NT kids are more likely to be angry about it or just disastisfied with their new position than cry, both of which the teacher would see as a power play that she should win

OP, I hope you can get your daughter moved - I'd hate for my child to be in that class, SN or not.

[MissMaegie'sMama]

I am so sad for you and your poor daughter. Some people don't get it.

I agree with the PPs about going directly to the principal with your concerns about what has happened to your DD in class. A sit-down meeting with both the teacher and the principal would be a good idea... perhaps the teacher's eyes could be opened once a higher-up steps in. After that, if the teacher is still rigid and unwilling to interact with your daughter in a more appropriate manner, you could request DD be placed with a different teacher. The school should not continue to subject your child to a teacher who does not understand her needs and who refuses to communicate with you.

[Treasuremapper]

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