I have a 27 month old DD. She has been in 'potty trained' for probably about 3-4 months now. She doesn't even wear diapers to bed. She learned to use the toilet mostly on her own and has done really well with it. She doesn't have accidents. that often with me (maybe 1x a week)
DD stays at home with my dd2 (9 months) and our nanny (who is terrific) and her son (14 months) while DH and I go to school during the day (we are both students). They get along really well and I have no worries about the quality of care.
There have been three or four times during the past month when DD has peed on the floor while the nanny is there. I've suggested that DD might have been too busy and forgot to go, etc. But the nanny seems to think she's peeing on the floor purposely (which may actually be the case).
Apparently, everytime she pees on the floor its when the nanny is tending to one of the younger kids (changing a diaper for example, or holding DD2 when she's fussy and telling DD1 that she needs to wait a minute to be held so that DD2 can fall asleep). For that reason, we think she's peeing because she knows that if she does that, she'll have to be dealt with/cleaned up right away.
So...we need ideas for how to deal with this. We don't spank. We don't do timeouts (though sometimes we use a "go to your room until you can calm down and stop [throwing,hitting,whatever]. when you're ready to be gentle you can come out and play with everyone else" it's basically just a way for her to cool down and regain her composure).
I suggested making her clean up the pee off the floor (though, at her age, i'm aware that she would need assistance in getting all the pee off of the floor). The nanny agreed that this sounded like a good idea (because DD would realize she's only creating more work for herself if she pees on the floor on purpose), but pointed out that its difficult to manage that approach with two smaller kids around. (i.e. while waiting for DD1 to take her pee-soaked clothes off and get a towel to clean up the floor, DD2 and the nanny's DS will be making their way over to play in the puddle of pee).
Any original ideas that might work?
DD stays at home with my dd2 (9 months) and our nanny (who is terrific) and her son (14 months) while DH and I go to school during the day (we are both students). They get along really well and I have no worries about the quality of care.
There have been three or four times during the past month when DD has peed on the floor while the nanny is there. I've suggested that DD might have been too busy and forgot to go, etc. But the nanny seems to think she's peeing on the floor purposely (which may actually be the case).
Apparently, everytime she pees on the floor its when the nanny is tending to one of the younger kids (changing a diaper for example, or holding DD2 when she's fussy and telling DD1 that she needs to wait a minute to be held so that DD2 can fall asleep). For that reason, we think she's peeing because she knows that if she does that, she'll have to be dealt with/cleaned up right away.
So...we need ideas for how to deal with this. We don't spank. We don't do timeouts (though sometimes we use a "go to your room until you can calm down and stop [throwing,hitting,whatever]. when you're ready to be gentle you can come out and play with everyone else" it's basically just a way for her to cool down and regain her composure).
I suggested making her clean up the pee off the floor (though, at her age, i'm aware that she would need assistance in getting all the pee off of the floor). The nanny agreed that this sounded like a good idea (because DD would realize she's only creating more work for herself if she pees on the floor on purpose), but pointed out that its difficult to manage that approach with two smaller kids around. (i.e. while waiting for DD1 to take her pee-soaked clothes off and get a towel to clean up the floor, DD2 and the nanny's DS will be making their way over to play in the puddle of pee).
Any original ideas that might work?
