I'll try to be brief. My ds is 11 and has always been a tough kid to parent (born at 33 wks) but the past few years have been better. Last year we moved and within 5 months of our move I was diagnosed with bc. He does not make friends easily at all. He reall spun out of control this summer about the time I was finishing radiation treatments. He tried to harm himself. We immediately started him with a couselor. He was slowly getting better but still having outbursts. Whne he goes 'to the bad place' his eyes go half-mast, he curses at us, does not care what we say at all. There is NOTHING we can say or do to snap him out of it. He is very mean and nasty. He curses like nothing I have ever heard. After 2 months of seeing the couselor he refused to go anymore. We forced him to her building and he refused to go in or talk to her. He loved going to see her so we are not sure what the deal is. She is not sure either what happened to turn him off of therapy. When he's in a good place he' great and is the boy we know and love. The problem is you never know which kid you'll find. It is very stressfull and hard on all of us. His brothers and sister have asked us not to include him in any famliy outings anymore because he always 'ruins' them. It's true. He never wants to go anywhere with us. He plays outside but going on outings, forget it. He is doing very well in school grade-wise. Teachers think he is the sweetest most creative kid around. I'm thinking 'ha, you should see him at home". I don't even want to be around him anymore as most of his anger is directed at me. I feel resentful that I don't get anytime to heal myself from breast cancer because of him. Just being honest here. One day we think it's just a discipline issue and the next we think depression and then mental illness. We are just so stumped and tired. Thoughts?
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10/15/10 at 7:18am