I need more friends!

[mooshersmama]

I'm not sure where this belongs...I just wanted to get my thoughts out.

I am really wishing I had more friends, especially friends close by. I really have one close friend, but she lives about 1.5 hours away, has a 2 year old and another on the way, so we don't get together as often as we'd like.

I have another few friends from college, but they also live over an hour away, so its the same thing.

I had one other friend...but she moved to another area.

I just wish I had some people nearby to go grab coffee with, or a drink or whatever. Not even necessarily a kid-focused activity, just someone to do stuff with! I have a few acquaintances that I really need to make the effort to see more. Ellie's started preschool so I'm sure I'll be meeting some parents there. I don't know...does anyone else struggle with this?

[Nazsmum]

I have given my ohone# out more times then I can count! I have given up in a way. I do have one friend. BUT her children are in school and it is hard to get together.

I so understand.

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

My best friend from School lives about 5 minutes away. But shes single with no children and a TON of other friends and family. We talk all the time, but dont get together a whole lot. More so lately, since she just moved.....again.

My soul mate in life, lives in SA, TX. im in upstate NY. We would probably get sick of eachother, we would be together so much. She is married with an older stepdaughter, but I know it wouldnt matter. We would be up eachothers rear ends if we could be, differences and all.

So in a way, I feel your pain, because I want what I have with her with someone I CAN see all the time. It kinda seems unfair sometimes when im feeling sorry for myself. At the same time, I try to reach out to other mamas i meet here (Which are few and far between), but there must be something off about me. They never really seem to bite. Im loud, outspoken, but sensative and emotional. I guess thats to funky a comb.

[goldenwillow]

Right there with ya.

I was going to mama/kid, LLL, group stuff.... however, found that there was too much drama and caddy chat that I just can't get into. My friends are also about an hour away, I think it is that way for a reason. In different seasons with my old friends.

DS and I have been going to parks for awhile now and I find the kids gravitate towards eachother to play and then it is just small talk. I have got together with a few gals and kids that I actually appreciate through those groups here and there.

I went out last week while DP and DS hung out. I had a drink by myself and it was fantastic. You never know who you might meet out on your own. I ended up chatting with a nice older woman (think she was a witch) and chatted about any and everything. These days I like being on my own when not with the family.

Good luck to you.

[mooshersmama]

Thanks for the responses! I think I really need to just get out more, check in with friends more, and just be more outgoing and open. Maintaining friendships takes work!!

[Harmony08]

I feel ya!!!!! I recently moved. All of my friends are long distance. I have gone to playgroups and I have a SAHD friend but I long for some women to hang with!!!

[mooshersmama]

Originally Posted by Harmony08

I feel ya!!!!! I recently moved. All of my friends are long distance. I have gone to playgroups and I have a SAHD friend but I long for some women to hang with!!!

Yep, that's exactly right. With my friends we have to plan in advance...I'd love a friend that lives close by that we could just do impromptu get togethers. Actually, I do have friends that live not too far...I need to reconnect with them.

[Naturopath Mom]

I can relate as well...I actually came to this board wanting to post on this topic! I get so frustrated at myself sometimes becasue I can't seem to make solid friends where I live. It's very different then where I grew up and the people can be nice....but many times they talk behind your back and I know most people just think I am WEIRD! (With the whole vegan/homeschool/AP/WAHM/Naturopath/And not celebrating normal holidays), it's just tough. I'm a private person as well, so very frustrating at times though when I need some other outside connections.

Thankfully I have made one very good friend and all our kids are awesome together. I think it is all about getting out there, you can eventually find more people that you get along with. The moms groups, librarys, kid functions and maybe you could find some events that pique your interests, and maybe you'll find some friends there with that in common? Best of luck to you!