My 13 old daughter came home last year and told me she had a boyfriend. I smiled, offered some advice without sounding controlling and tried to be supportive (inside I was screaming "you are way too young for this"). We are usually able to openly talk about most things so I was happy that she was sharing. He was very affectionate toward her in school, kissing her before she got on the bus and they were texting constantly. I was trying to go with the flow and just checking in through conversation that she was using good judgement. We have talked about sex, peer pressure etc and I have shared my experiences with her both positive and negative. So after a few weeks he dumps her to make his rounds with 6-8 other girls. Before school is out for summer he comes pleading back to my daughter that she is the only one for him. She gives him that chance and then I find out he pressures her into sending a phone picture of herself in her underwear which after reading the texts I could see she was very reluctant in doing. I block his number on her phone and then she finds out he is two timing her with 2 to 3 other girls texting them how much he loves them. So this school year starts and my daughter and I laugh about the reputation this kid is getting going from girl to girl and how my daughter wants NOTHING to do with him. So yesterday she comes home and says he has been so nice to her and she is now in a relationship with him again (slap me). I told her I am trying to raise her with self respect and I just don't understand why she has made this decision. Now she won't even let me talk to her about it....just says "stop it." I said she can see him in school because I can't control that, but I won't allow any communication outside of school. If he wants to talk to her he can call the house phone (how scary). Now she is mad at me and her tone is disrespectful and I am getting angry. What is the best way to handle this?
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10/15/10 at 6:51pm