there is a book written by a quaker woman ( i can't recall her name) but it was published by pendle hill ( a quaker publication/retreat organization) and it is called death: a spiritual birth. it is fascinating and basically the theme is that death is actually the birth of our spirit into the next world/plane of existence. have you ever read any accounts of near death experiences or people who died and were brought back? they all have the same story: that they passed through a tunnel into light, that they saw all of their relatives who had died before them, and that they saw their life almost in a movie reel. at that point they are brought back. that is as far as they have gone. but it is really interesting.
my brother died in March of this year, and i have had so many dreams with him. i really believe it is his spirit coming to see me. two times i got mad at him in the dreams for dying, and the dream would pause like in a movie, and then he would step out of the dream and walk out the door of my room. he has also come to me times that weren't in my dreams, but were in that time of sleep right before you wake up. one time it was the night after his death, he came to me and asked me to feed his snake. the other time he came to me and told me to check my dd's blood levels for celiac to see if it was the cause of her seizures. he was right that time. and no one else had picked up on it. he and i were close, and i was at his birth and was the first one to hold hiim after the midwife caught him, even before my mother.
all of his friends have had dreams where he said goodbye to them. his death was a tragedy and no one was able to say goodbye. his best friend has had so many dreams where they are just hanging out and talking. my brother had a dream where my brother who passed came to him with one of our old dogs, the one who was closest to my brother who passed. the dog died about 15 years ago and he was my dead brother's dog. i know that they are together.
i would look for that book, spiritual birth - it has some really interesting thoughts about the connection between birth, life, death, and after death.
sorry if this is off topic. i love to talk about this, and most people think it is very morbid.