Originally Posted by lach
Most people who celebrate Halloween think that it's 100% secular, and have never heard of anyone having qualms with it being a Christian-rooted holiday.
Halloween is an observance of pagan origin, not Christian. It is celebrated in a secular way now, but that is not its origin.
Originally Posted by Kirsten
Help me understand the issue with a Halloween or Valentine party. I honestly don't understand and would like to.
The OP is Jewish. Valentine's Day is an observance of Catholic origin.
OP, I don't celebrate Halloween, and we don't do "Fall Festivals" either because, let's be honest, it's just a Halloween party in disguise...which is sort of appropriate, no? LOL
What I do is explain, explain, explain to my children what the objection to the observance is. Then they decide if they are prepared to speak up and ask the teacher for an alternate activity. They can choose to stay in the room, or they can ask to go to the library. If they feel that morning like they need my help, I pick them up right before the party starts.
Some years, I have gathered all the non-celebrating kiddos in the school together for a neutral activity in the multi-purpose room. It works because I'm a fingerprinted volunteer, so I can be alone with kids. Also, I know all the parents and am confident they would be glad I took their kids. And last, we're in a charter school, so I end up with a couple of volunteer hours for doing this.
More often that not, though, I just pick the kids up early. I don't worry about them missing, because our district allows one hour per day to be missed for religious instruction off-campus. We just go straight home and have a bible study (which we do weekly anyway) and then I write an affadavit for the principal.