Is it totally horrifying to everyone that I absolutely do NOT want this sort of friendship?
I hate talking on the phone and would be annoyed by anyone except my mom (LOVE my mom, of course!) who called me multiple times over the course of the week to chat about nothing and everything.
I don't want anyone calling me at 2 AM, and I can't even imagine calling anyone else in the middle of the night, except in the case of a dire emergency. And then I would call my mom, of course.
I'm very independent and don't like to discuss details of my life with others, nor get opinions on things that happen to me. I enjoy time to myself and don't want to be tied down to a best friend relationship. Horrible, I know. I'm one of those awful people referred to upthread who say they are interested in friendship but then never want to talk on the phone.
I'm sorry, really I am!
I do have wonderful friends--a group of nine women I met when all of our firstborn kids were babies. Six years later we still have a casual weekly playdate. I love these women and am closer to some of them than I am to others, although all of us mesh pretty well together. I look forward to playdates and love having long conversations during the playdates, but I don't feel myself craving their company throughout the week, and I would never call them if it could possibly be avoided.
Sigh. Chalk it up to one more non-girly characteristic in a whole constellation of non-girly characteristics. I'm afraid I'm one of those women who is actually from Mars, not Venus.