bluepetals,
Im glad you had a better experience. Did your OB/FP Dr. know you were planning a homebirth? Im just not a good liar so the end of my pregnancy would have been miserable for me. I couldnt even figure out the logistics of that. Did I just call my Doc after the HB and say, well.. baby came at home.. oh, and by the way, I dont plan on doing any post partum visits..thanks for the memories. Did you have to do Shadowcare even though you had a vaginal delivery with your first?
samstress,
When it rains, it pours, huh?
That sounds like alot of stuff to process at once.
It sucks that midwives in your area are so expensive. Around here they are anywhere from 2800-3800. If you did shadow care and just transferred to the midwife at 36 weeks for the final prenatals and the birth that is even cheaper. I dont know if that is an option where you are. Im so sorry that you cant have midwifery care during your pregnancy. All insurance should cover midwives. Are you in an illegal HB state?
I hope the school can work something out for your DD's tuition.
Evergreen, it felt like a police state. I know Im oversensitive about these things but I havent really even went to more then a handful of doctor's visits in a very very long time. And my doctor's experiences before that were with a series of pharmacuetical drug pushers who booked in into a 10 minute time slot and had no real ability to evaluate the complexities that were me
I gave up on all that and decided it was kind of up to me to figure out how to heal thyself. Since then, I just havent had ailments that Doctors could help me more with then changes to my diet, exercise, therapy modalities, and herbs could. So, the weirdness of the OB care when Im used to not just my own experience with pregnancy, but 9 years of sitting with clients or as a student is just heartbreaking. A woman came into the office obviously in transition. They made her wait in the waiting room with sick people (it's one of those big multicare places) for 30 minutes! I just wanted to cry for her. She was in the room next to me where they made her wait for another 20 minutes...and they checked her and then freaked out because she was 8cm.
Well, duh. I coulda told you she was atleast 7 by looking at her an hour ago! That woman woulda had her baby hours ago if she was being attended by a homebirth midwife.
It's such a growing, changing time of life.. It breaks my heart that so many women get shuffled through the fear factory and told what their bodies will be allowed to do. "Ill *let* you to go to 42 weeks". And this is a good response! Women seeking VBACs cry tears of joy to have a doc that will give them 2 extra weeks to gestate in peace.
Anyway, Im so thankful to live somewhere that has so many options for me. So so so thankful.
Jrsmom,
It sounds like your Dr. is willing to think about it.. is he attached to any conglomerate healthcare system? I hate that healthcare systems get to make so many decisions for the doctors. As if dealing with the disparity in power between and OB and a laboring/pregnant woman werent enough, now we have multibillion dollar industries controlling policies from a boardroom.
I read your post about your anxiety around the births. It sounds like you have done everything you possibly could to birth your babies vaginally at home. You are a chiropracter. You know bones. Maybe doing the Pink Kit exercises for pelvic mapping will help you have even more peace with knowing if you do have actual CPD or if there are places in your pelvis you could create more room to help the baby engage.
I hope you get an empowered birth you feel good about.
nixnc,
I think a friendly environment is so important with a care provider. Im so glad you found a group of people who like what they do.
Im glad you had a better experience. Did your OB/FP Dr. know you were planning a homebirth? Im just not a good liar so the end of my pregnancy would have been miserable for me. I couldnt even figure out the logistics of that. Did I just call my Doc after the HB and say, well.. baby came at home.. oh, and by the way, I dont plan on doing any post partum visits..thanks for the memories. Did you have to do Shadowcare even though you had a vaginal delivery with your first?
samstress,
When it rains, it pours, huh?
That sounds like alot of stuff to process at once.
It sucks that midwives in your area are so expensive. Around here they are anywhere from 2800-3800. If you did shadow care and just transferred to the midwife at 36 weeks for the final prenatals and the birth that is even cheaper. I dont know if that is an option where you are. Im so sorry that you cant have midwifery care during your pregnancy. All insurance should cover midwives. Are you in an illegal HB state?
I hope the school can work something out for your DD's tuition.
Evergreen, it felt like a police state. I know Im oversensitive about these things but I havent really even went to more then a handful of doctor's visits in a very very long time. And my doctor's experiences before that were with a series of pharmacuetical drug pushers who booked in into a 10 minute time slot and had no real ability to evaluate the complexities that were me
I gave up on all that and decided it was kind of up to me to figure out how to heal thyself. Since then, I just havent had ailments that Doctors could help me more with then changes to my diet, exercise, therapy modalities, and herbs could. So, the weirdness of the OB care when Im used to not just my own experience with pregnancy, but 9 years of sitting with clients or as a student is just heartbreaking. A woman came into the office obviously in transition. They made her wait in the waiting room with sick people (it's one of those big multicare places) for 30 minutes! I just wanted to cry for her. She was in the room next to me where they made her wait for another 20 minutes...and they checked her and then freaked out because she was 8cm.Well, duh. I coulda told you she was atleast 7 by looking at her an hour ago! That woman woulda had her baby hours ago if she was being attended by a homebirth midwife.
It's such a growing, changing time of life.. It breaks my heart that so many women get shuffled through the fear factory and told what their bodies will be allowed to do. "Ill *let* you to go to 42 weeks". And this is a good response! Women seeking VBACs cry tears of joy to have a doc that will give them 2 extra weeks to gestate in peace.
Anyway, Im so thankful to live somewhere that has so many options for me. So so so thankful.
Jrsmom,
It sounds like your Dr. is willing to think about it.. is he attached to any conglomerate healthcare system? I hate that healthcare systems get to make so many decisions for the doctors. As if dealing with the disparity in power between and OB and a laboring/pregnant woman werent enough, now we have multibillion dollar industries controlling policies from a boardroom.
I read your post about your anxiety around the births. It sounds like you have done everything you possibly could to birth your babies vaginally at home. You are a chiropracter. You know bones. Maybe doing the Pink Kit exercises for pelvic mapping will help you have even more peace with knowing if you do have actual CPD or if there are places in your pelvis you could create more room to help the baby engage.
I hope you get an empowered birth you feel good about.
nixnc,
I think a friendly environment is so important with a care provider. Im so glad you found a group of people who like what they do.
I have followed up a few times, the office administrator says that every time they sit down to go through the stack of files, a birth comes up and they get called away. I thought I was going to hear by last Friday/Monday, but still nothing.
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