elonwy - so glad you had an "awesome" first prenatal visit and that you are starting to feel better. wonderful news.
MamaChef - glad you're feeling better and enjoyed a lovely day at the zoo. dh, dd and i went to the aquarium last weekend and we had such a great time. dd has been insisting for a while that we ride the train, so we took it there. what would have taken 45 minutes by car took 2 1/2 on the train and subway, but it was totally worth it. dd was completely enthralled the entire time. so fun! love to see how excited she gets about such simple things.
MrsBone - how wonderful that you're still in touch with the families from your first birthing class (two year later). the playdate sounds like fun.
nixnc - when i was pregnant last year i had a hard time convincing my dh of my desire to have a midwife attend the birth (it ended up being moot -- we lost the baby), but i think it had more to do with the fact that dd was born via emergency c-section (which was even scarier for him than for me -- while pushing, dd's heart rate disappeared, i was whisked away and dh had no idea what was happening to me or baby for about 20 minutes).
in his mind there was a possibility that the next could end that way as well, so he very much wanted to be in a hospital.
we watched the business of being born (as a pp mentioned) and that helped a lot. we also went to a lecture on vbac facts which also helped. he got to ask lots of questions and get all the stats (from someone other than me).
sorry, i don't really have any advice, just wanted to commiserate. hope he's on board after your appointment.
ryleeee and
sewingsparklz - nice to know it's not just me. on certain days i look at least 5 months.
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Originally Posted by MamaChef  samstress,
When it rains, it pours, huh?
That sounds like alot of stuff to process at once.
It sucks that midwives in your area are so expensive. Around here they are anywhere from 2800-3800. If you did shadow care and just transferred to the midwife at 36 weeks for the final prenatals and the birth that is even cheaper. I dont know if that is an option where you are. Im so sorry that you cant have midwifery care during your pregnancy. All insurance should cover midwives. Are you in an illegal HB state?
I hope the school can work something out for your DD's tuition.
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it certainly does. and today we wake up with major plumbing issues. i had been keeping it together pretty well, but today i just lost it and i can't stop crying. everything is making me cry. don't know if it's the pregnancy hormones or just the stress (or both). i'm trying to keep it together and remain positive and calm for the baby (and for the rest of my family), but i'm having a really hard time today.
on top of it, i haven't really been having any pregnancy symptoms, which makes me nervous. i keep telling myself the nausea is just subsiding because i've nearly reached the second trimester, but i can't help but be a bit scared. a couple nights ago i was lying in bed with dd and i thought i felt the baby move (is it too early for that? with dd i didn't feel anything until about 17 weeks). i got very excited. so did dd. she wanted to feel too (so sweet
). anyway, i haven't felt anything since. which also makes me nervous. ugh! i think if we hadn't had a previous loss i wouldn't be feeling this way.
anyway, hadn't thought of transferring to a midwife later in my pregnancy and honestly don't know if that is an option. i am
not in an illegal HB state. yes, all insurance should cover midwives. i hate that i have insurance, but can't get the birth
i want.
dd's school assured me that they very much consider her a part of the school's community (she's been there since she was one) and want her to stay. they've said i can volunteer some hours at the school so she can stay tuition-free. i was relieved to not have to yank her out school, but others i've talked to feel that they're taking advantage of me (knowing that it would break my heart to pull her out). i don't know.
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Originally Posted by Evergreen samstress . that is so stressful. I am so sorry. This economy sucks. Dh is meeting with a recruiter today and going back into the Army at the age of 38 because he can't find a job in his field. I wish things could just be happy.
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how awful. i hate that so many people are in the same boat. so many hard working families that just are struggling to get by. dh and i both work for small companies/organizations. we don't make much money and we have no retirement, but we love what we do and are happy and we always thought that mattered more than anything. honestly, i'm starting to think it's time i completely shake things up or do something completely different in a field that would offer me more stability. something i didn't really think i'd be doing at 38. i don't know. i feel like i've got way too much on my plate right now.
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Originally Posted by NicMom Samstress - Oh dear! Those prices do seem a bit high. The prices for HB are not even that high in San Francisco. Maybe you can shop around or ask for a discount
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the prices i've seen seem pretty comparable. i actually thought about telling her my sob story and asking for a discount, but i'm a little embarrassed. and would she? i mean, she has to make a living too, right?
i've heard about a local midwife who might give a break to struggling families, perhaps i'll look into it. at the very least, i've said i will have a doula at the birth. i'm trying to get excited about that.
sorry for the general downer of a post. just a rough day. i honestly feel so fortunate for so many things and realize lots of people have it worse than we do. i'm fortunate to even be in this ddc (i realize this every time i see one of our members say goodbye). so glad i'm here and that i can get all my stuff out of my head and down in print. thanks so much.
I figure it's not really much of a tight squeeze in there right now, baby has room to move around...and baby only weighs like an ounce, so probably has to be in just the right position for movement to really be felt.
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