Quick background for those who don't know: the father of the baby that I'm currently pregnant with turned out to be an emotionally abusive alcoholic, to put it simply. I am staying with a friend until I can figure out wtf I'm going to do.
I have been trying to contact him every week for the past four weeks. I have things that I need from his place (I haven't gotten everything because I don't have anywhere to put it all and I can't hardly get a hold of him to figure it out) and I needed to discuss getting money so I can buy stuff for the baby (namely, cloth diapers and the like). He has no cell phone (or at least hasn't told me if he got one) so my only form of contact is to call him at work.
I talked to him Friday. Just said that I needed some things and some money for baby stuff. He said he would be in town Monday (today - he lives an hour away) and that he would call me Saturday so he could write it all down, yadda yadda. Never called, no surprise there. So I called him yesterday (Sunday). He wrote down what I needed. He said he would be here around noon. I asked that he call me before he left just in case I forgot anything else I needed and he said he would. He said he was bringing his ex (the same girl he brought when he FINALLY picked me up from Oklahoma after just leaving me there for an extra week, the girl I had no problem with until that night when they physically tried to remove me from the car, when she tried to come after me physically and he had to hold her back, and they slept in her apartment while I slept in the car - oh, and the girl who didn't call me the night that he kicked me out of the car at 4am stranded alone with no money, food, phone or place to sleep, and he went to her place to sleep and she just didn't bother to call me to let me know he was there when she KNEW I was stranded alone in a dangerous area). I told him that he was to bring the stuff up to the house ALONE, that I did not want to see or deal with her. He agreed.
It's now 12:30...I have not received a call, nor has he shown up. I'm not surprised that he hasn't shown up yet. This isn't work (although all the times he's been late it was because he was out drinking, so clearly work isn't terribly important either). This isn't some appointment. So he has no motivation to be timely. Therefore I'm not surprised at all. But I am irritated. I still think he'll probably show up (not putting too much faith into it, but I'm putting any faith in it which is more than I do for anything else he says he'll do, like when he says he'll call me). He probably won't call before he leaves, so I won't be able to tell him to bring something that I forgot. And I wouldn't be surprised if he thinks it's perfectly okay for his ex to walk up with him.
What do you want to bet he got nice and drunk last night and that's why he's not here? Drunk is almost always the answer for everything with him.
I have been trying to contact him every week for the past four weeks. I have things that I need from his place (I haven't gotten everything because I don't have anywhere to put it all and I can't hardly get a hold of him to figure it out) and I needed to discuss getting money so I can buy stuff for the baby (namely, cloth diapers and the like). He has no cell phone (or at least hasn't told me if he got one) so my only form of contact is to call him at work.
I talked to him Friday. Just said that I needed some things and some money for baby stuff. He said he would be in town Monday (today - he lives an hour away) and that he would call me Saturday so he could write it all down, yadda yadda. Never called, no surprise there. So I called him yesterday (Sunday). He wrote down what I needed. He said he would be here around noon. I asked that he call me before he left just in case I forgot anything else I needed and he said he would. He said he was bringing his ex (the same girl he brought when he FINALLY picked me up from Oklahoma after just leaving me there for an extra week, the girl I had no problem with until that night when they physically tried to remove me from the car, when she tried to come after me physically and he had to hold her back, and they slept in her apartment while I slept in the car - oh, and the girl who didn't call me the night that he kicked me out of the car at 4am stranded alone with no money, food, phone or place to sleep, and he went to her place to sleep and she just didn't bother to call me to let me know he was there when she KNEW I was stranded alone in a dangerous area). I told him that he was to bring the stuff up to the house ALONE, that I did not want to see or deal with her. He agreed.
It's now 12:30...I have not received a call, nor has he shown up. I'm not surprised that he hasn't shown up yet. This isn't work (although all the times he's been late it was because he was out drinking, so clearly work isn't terribly important either). This isn't some appointment. So he has no motivation to be timely. Therefore I'm not surprised at all. But I am irritated. I still think he'll probably show up (not putting too much faith into it, but I'm putting any faith in it which is more than I do for anything else he says he'll do, like when he says he'll call me). He probably won't call before he leaves, so I won't be able to tell him to bring something that I forgot. And I wouldn't be surprised if he thinks it's perfectly okay for his ex to walk up with him.
What do you want to bet he got nice and drunk last night and that's why he's not here? Drunk is almost always the answer for everything with him.
He said he would be here in about an hour.
He didn't mention this when I talked to him yesterday, so chances are it happened last night...I mean, it makes the most sense. They're all drunk and irresponsible, and he is talking about how he's going to have to see me the next day and bring me some of my stuff. Of course they're going to say, "Well then let's burn it!" 
