No idea about Glen Ellyn, but I can tell you for sure that you will be able to find likeminded homeschooling families in the Chicago area. Even those who are A-Ok with 'queer'

My eldest dd lives there with her kids (south side) and tho she is not a homeschooler she is connected with various progressive and 'queer, or queer-friendly' people all over the place. I can find out if she is willing to communicate with you or at least give links to regional elists that will help you get connected. PM me for details.
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