i was right. the chiro worked her magic and little man is now very much head down again. so that shut them up as far as the breech business goes. but now there is another issue
we're concerned about little girl. she didnt even grow a pound since last u/s. she was 2.8 last time and 3.6 this time. little man was 3.3 last time and 4.10 this time!! she is in the 8th % growth percentile and he the 50th. so now i have to have weekly BPP until delivery. i know u/s can be off quite a bit, but the side by side comparison of their heads and abdomens is scary. not that i will be jumping on the c/s bandwagon or anything. she has always been smaller, but just as healthy. but she really is petite compared to him.
the MFM guy was really nice. i was suprised. course initially i was nearly out of it since i did a major hypnobabies session before my appt. but he basically said he wasnt there to talk me out of anything and that everyone is right in this situation. i am choosing what is right for me and the dr's are choosing what is right for them. he read my entire chart. i was impressed by that alone, LOL. cuz its pretty big!
OB was there with us too after a bit. he apologized because it wasnt his idea at all. he is still on board and supportive. his partners however, freaked out. basically none of them know me, we've never met, and they didnt read anything my OB sent over except my birth plan. not the emails where i said that i would consent to a c/s if an emergency arose or if i felt it was neccessary. none of it. they just saw what they wanted to see and said they wouldnt deliver me if i came into the hospital in labor! he apologized for being so brutal in the emails but since his partners are reading them he had to be. basically they have been giving him crap for supporting me all this time. nice huh.
what the MFM head did say is that we are putting together a form of sorts, saying that i understand that the other partners are not supportive and that they do not support or recommend me having a VBAC. they also have to sign saying that when i come into L and D that they will treat me with the utmost respect and will give me the same medical care as anyone else, despite their personal opinions. also, i get my very own MFM specialist AND OB when i go in. he is meeting with them and will have it set up so that when i come in, whoever is on call for MFM will be required to come in and assist the OB on call with my care. dont i feel special. the MFM guy was very nice and not pushy at all. he was very reasonable and told me i was very smart for doing the research and bringing it with me, and that he feels i am making the best decision for myself and that i am more than capable of deciding what is best for me. he also said it makes perfect sense that i want an actual medical reason to have surgery and currently there is no medical reason indicating that. i have to do what i feel is best for me and my babies.
we also discussed what conditions i would agree to a c/s for. i explained that my hubs wil be gone and taking care of new twins, a 10 yr old, and recovering from a major surgery i didnt actually require, is not something i am interested in doing. but should little man require breech extraction we will do a c/s because in my research the most cases of rupture w/ twins came with the 2nd twin needing breech extraction. so DH and i have agreed should that be the case we will have little man via c/s.
so all in all, it wasnt as bad as i thought it would be. i am scared for little girl. she is so tiny compared to my little bruiser man. who is gorgeous, btw
i finally got great pics of his face. to me, they both look like DD but we shall see.
i plan to read this form, re read it, then have other people read it before i sign it. i dont want to be blind sided by something i missed.
Wow...
