Originally Posted by mamazee
OP - according to your siggie, you have a 12-month-old and a 4-month old????
Anyway, my first was an only for 7 years, and therefore got tons of undivided attention. I feel bad that the little one doesn't get that as much.
I think the baby's due in 4 months...that's how I'm reading it, anyway.
I think it all comes down to keeping in mind that the kids will be individuals with individual needs. For example, we didn't co-sleep with dd1, because she very happily slept in a crib (or cosleeper) next to the bed. OTOH, we do co-sleep with dd2, who expressed that preference from the time she was newborn, but she'll never have the option of crib in the same room, because (once we moved) her crib is in the bedroom she hypothetically shares with her big sister.
(I'd like to try having the crib in the room, actually, but I don't think that will fly with dd1 and dh, for a variety of reasons. So snuggling with she-who-hogs-the-bed-and-kicks-alot it is.