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post #81 of 151
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Originally Posted by Smithie View Post
. But if MJ were legalized tomorrow, I would not stop people from using it in front of my kids any more than I'd stop them from drinking (i.e., a little is OK, start doing it to excess and I'm taking my kids out of the situation).
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THis is not meant to ruffle feathers....but I am curious if those who have this take also are ok with people smoking in front of their children. I have no issue with people drinking infront of my child as (unless to excess) it is only affecting the drinker....smoking (anything) affects those around them. I do not allow people to smoke in front of myself or my child (thankfully none of my friends smoke-some familiy members do though)
post #82 of 151
I would not allow my children to be in the direct company of someone smoking pot for another one of the same reasons I am against people who plan to tell their kids the who's who of potheads.... That is a huge burden for kids to bear. My kids do know of some people who do but it is never done in front of them...
post #83 of 151
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Originally Posted by Mackenzie View Post
Honestly, I would be beyond pissed if someone told their child my personal business. That puts delicate information in the hands of a child who may not know how treat that information with care. Your child tells another child who tells their parents.... Or your child may fall victim to the DARE teachings and "tell an adult or authority". Either of which could get children removed, felony drug charges (which screw.up.lives!). Like I said, I don't smoke currently but I may on occasion sometime in the future and I assure you I have never ever been in a position when I "don't think" as a PP said. Never endangered my children or anything of the like. I think you can have a discussion with your kids without putting other families in danger...
Ummm, if you don't want to get in legal trouble, don't do illegal things
post #84 of 151
Oh come on.... Show me a person who has not done SOMEthing illegal in their lives.... People do stuff all the time of questionable or outright illegality.... Doesn't mean that they need to have their worlds ripped apart for it. Hell, I know a cop who keep chickens against neighborhood ordinance. Not everything is so black and white people...
post #85 of 151
I've never tried pot or cigarettes
post #86 of 151
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Originally Posted by Mackenzie View Post
Oh come on.... Show me a person who has not done SOMEthing illegal in their lives.... People do stuff all the time of questionable or outright illegality.... Doesn't mean that they need to have their worlds ripped apart for it. Hell, I know a cop who keep chickens against neighborhood ordinance. Not everything is so black and white people...
I don't think you kids will be taken away for chickens

You may disagree but I choose to not allow my child to be around people under the influence of anything (including things that are legal). Luckily I live in an area that makes that very easy.
post #87 of 151
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Originally Posted by Mackenzie View Post
Oh come on.... Show me a person who has not done SOMEthing illegal in their lives.... People do stuff all the time of questionable or outright illegality.... Doesn't mean that they need to have their worlds ripped apart for it. Hell, I know a cop who keep chickens against neighborhood ordinance. Not everything is so black and white people...
I have never knowingly broke the law.
post #88 of 151
Well, I think that it is good to talk to kids about it-- the difference between use and abuse, that there are a lot of drugs, caffeine, tylenol, alcohol, etc.

Sometimes people use drugs, and then there are instances of abuse. It is difficult to tell the difference in some instances.

I grew up with a lot of second hand smoke from parents smoking cigarettes, and honestly the smoke aspect of pot bothers me the most. It is not healthy for children to be around second hand smoke, you know?

I agree that is is not good for adults to smoke anything in front of kids.

I think all you can do is talk to children openly about it (when they're old enough-- 11/12 years). And stress that if they ever do drink, smoke pot to feel free to call you for help and *never* get in a car with out a sober driver.
But there are so many other, healthier things to do when you are young.
post #89 of 151
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Originally Posted by lonegirl View Post
THis is not meant to ruffle feathers....but I am curious if those who have this take also are ok with people smoking in front of their children. I have no issue with people drinking infront of my child as (unless to excess) it is only affecting the drinker....smoking (anything) affects those around them. I do not allow people to smoke in front of myself or my child (thankfully none of my friends smoke-some familiy members do though)
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I can't stress how upset and angry I am at my parents for smoking cigarettes around me as a child. I know it has effected my health, and I am still upset about it. I know, I should get over it, but that's how I feel. It was not right of them to do this to me. Sure it was legal, but it was not right. Not everything that is legal is moral, and not everything illegal is immoral.

If someone smoked pot in front of my kids, it would bother me, too.
post #90 of 151
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Originally Posted by philomom View Post
I have never knowingly broke the law.
Youve never speeded? Stayed parked at a meter a few minutes too long? Jaywalked? Spit on a sidewalk? Rode a bike against traffic!?
post #91 of 151
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I don't think you kids will be taken away for chickens

You may disagree but I choose to not allow my child to be around people under the influence of anything (including things that are legal). Luckily I live in an area that makes that very easy.
But according to some PP, he deserves everything that comes to him for having this chickens, no matter how upstanding or positive of an influence he otherwise is
post #92 of 151
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Originally Posted by Mackenzie View Post
But according to some PP, he deserves everything that comes to him for having this chickens, no matter how upstanding or positive of an influence he otherwise is
He knew he was doing it and it was against the law, so yeah, he deserves it. Everyone makes informed decisions and by making that choice they *should* be willing to accept the consequences.
post #93 of 151
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Originally Posted by cymbeline View Post
none of us was comfortable going to another family's house if we knew there was a loaded gun in the house.
sort of ot, but do you ask about pools? kids are far more likely to be injured or drown at a home with a pool than they are at a home with a weapon.
post #94 of 151
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Originally Posted by mysticmomma View Post
sort of ot, but do you ask about pools? kids are far more likely to be injured or drown at a home with a pool than they are at a home with a weapon.
I absolutely would ask about pools.
post #95 of 151
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Originally Posted by fairejour View Post
He knew he was doing it and it was against the law, so yeah, he deserves it. Everyone makes informed decisions and by making that choice they *should* be willing to accept the consequences.
Wow...Just. Wow.
post #96 of 151
Well, I always like to think in terms of what I think is appropriate and inappropriate. Porn is legal but I have issues with it. Cigarettes are the worst evil ever, in my opinion (this is an ex-smoker here!) and they are legal. I think we all make value judgments based on what we view as responsible, appropriate, safe, etc. Legal or illegal...that has a lot of baggage attached to it. I prefer to make value judgments based on a number of factors.
post #97 of 151
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Originally Posted by nextcommercial View Post
I smoked it for the first time in 25 years the other day. It's definitely overrated, and I couldn't have an intelligent conversation for three hours. I leaned against a stair rail pretending to look casual for an hour... when it was the only thing holding me up.

So, anybody who claims they can smoke pot and be a "Better driver" or "make clear decisions" is either lying, or deluded... or I was smoking the best pot in the world.
Or pot affects you a little differently than it might affect someone else. I wouldn't claim that I could drive or think "clearly" when I smoked pot. But, in several years of heavy smoking, I certainly never needed a stair rail to hold me up. I can't even picture how that would work, to be honest. I know I smoked some pretty heavy stuff...and I know that other people i knew smoked heavy stuff - and a lot more of it than I ever did - and they weren't affected that way, either.

I personally hate pot at this point in my life and will never smoke it again. But, there are lots of people who smoke it with much, much less drastic effects than what you describe. At least two of them made perfectly good decisions while stoned, as well. (That was also outside my comfort zone. I never made decisions about anything more serious than "Coke or Dr. Pepper?" while stoned.)
post #98 of 151
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Originally Posted by Mackenzie View Post
Wow...Just. Wow.
Really? You don't believe in natural consequences? As an adult, you should know the ramifications of your choices and you should be willing to accept them.
post #99 of 151
I've skimmed most of the thread now. I just want to say that, with respect to asking other parenst about whether they smoke weed...you can if you want, but not everybody will be honest aobut it. IME, the ones most likely to offer someone else's child illegal drugs are also the ones most likely to lie about their habits. So, you can ask if you want, but I'd trust my gut more than I'd trust anyone's responses.
post #100 of 151
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Originally Posted by CatsCradle View Post
Well, I always like to think in terms of what I think is appropriate and inappropriate. Porn is legal but I have issues with it. Cigarettes are the worst evil ever, in my opinion (this is an ex-smoker here!) and they are legal. I think we all make value judgments based on what we view as responsible, appropriate, safe, etc. Legal or illegal...that has a lot of baggage attached to it. I prefer to make value judgments based on a number of factors.
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