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post #21 of 96
I went through high school. Teens have to be wearing a costume to get candy from our house! Here they have a halloween party for the older kids (at the clubhouse, its a gated community with mostly families).

I think by high school, teens should be volunteering to take younger kids out if they still want candy!

Heck I still go now and dress up, except I take ds with me....
post #22 of 96
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Originally Posted by NiteNicole View Post
I can't imagine discouraging a child who still wants to go. Here, we get a huge age range - from teeny babies who are asleep in mom's arms to teenagers. As long as everyone is polite, I am fine with it. Who doesn't like free candy?
exactly!

ive handed out candy to teens that I am thinking were more like adults...18-19... they were usually with younger teens and I think its fine!

i love halloween. id give candy to an adult dressed up... if you have candy to give, who cares about age?
post #23 of 96
I don't mind older trick or treaters as long as some effort has been put into a costume. I'm annoyed by teenagers who ring my door bell in normal clothes and want free candy. Teens escorting younger kids get extra candy from me.
post #24 of 96
I went TOT all the way through HS... of course my Jr and Sr yrs of HS i was also taking my baby brother (who is 5 years younger then me) TOTing as well. And i am fine with teenages TOT as long as they are in costume and acting polietly like everyone else... but i've never seen a TOTing teen who wasnt in costume or poliet!
post #25 of 96
I went trick or treating through high school. I loved getting dressed up.

As long as you put together some sort of costume I think it is fine to go out much older than elementary school.
post #26 of 96
Honestly, I think our society places a lot of pressure on kids to grow up too fast. I think it's great when teens want to go trick or treating. It's much better than other things they could be doing (like pumpkin smashing, egging, ringing doorbells and running, etc--things teens in my old neighborhood did). I love a good piece of candy and I have no problem giving candy to teens. Growing up is hard. Teens and preteens receive so many messages about what they should or shouldn't be doing and I think most of this stuff should be left up to the children. For example, a nine year old may decide that she's not interested in trick or treating. A 17 or 18 year old may look forward to the experience all year long. To me it's like a lot of other things. For instance, my 11 year old DSD LOVES playing with baby dolls. My niece who is roughly the same age has zero interest in baby dolls. I'm not going to encourage my DSD to stop playing with dolls. She'll stop when she's ready to stop.

I remember crying when I was 12 because it was the last year I could go trick or treating. I felt like I was being forced to let go of a part of my childhood before I was ready to.
post #27 of 96
If we weren't going to be out of town that weekend, my almost 17 yo dd would be TOT in full costume. She would be taking her 12 yo brother who still enjoys it as well. As long as someone is dressed up (we live in a college town) they get candy.

The year my dd was in 7th grade it was my three (13, 11 and 9) and one of her friends. We got to a door and the owner says "little kids get candy and big kids get..................................their choice of toiletry products, shampoo or good smelling soap!"
post #28 of 96
We went a couple of years into high school. We dressed up and everything. It was actually more fun as a teenager. The last couple of years of high school we had Halloween parties instead.
post #29 of 96
There's a cutoff? I went even when pg with baby #1 and am always happy to see older kids out trick or treating, too. The holiday is not just for kids!
post #30 of 96
As long as they are willing to put on a coustume I'm fine with teens trick or treating. I don't like it when older teens show up at my door with no costumes.
post #31 of 96
I should clarify that older kids (or teens) who get all dressed up and have fun with it are ok with me. Unfortunately I've seen mostly rude or ones with a bit of attitude around us. Or the girls are wearing really really revealing clothes... like butt cheeks nearly hanging out etc... they go for the "slutty" type costumes. That, IMO, is kids growing up too fast. Or the boys just throwing on a bit of facepaint, or wearing their hunting jacket and saying they are a hunter. I want to see a bit more effort than that if you want candy! lol. There are a few that do it right, get decked out in costume and have fun without being rude etc, but they have been fewer and fewer over the past couple years.

I'd much rather see a positive activity for that age group that can get them all doing something fun and keeping them out of trouble but they still feel like they are adequately celebrating. Something they'd look forward to instead of feeling like they are getting left out because they aren't TOTing.

Dh likes to have fun with the older ones who are either not in costume or have attitude. He lays on the porch roof with a giant spider on a fishing rod and drops it down on them. Oh, you should see the reactions! Trick or treat? Oh, no costume? Trick it is!
post #32 of 96
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Honestly, I think our society places a lot of pressure on kids to grow up too fast. I think it's great when teens want to go trick or treating. It's much better than other things they could be doing (like pumpkin smashing, egging, ringing doorbells and running, etc--things teens in my old neighborhood did). I love a good piece of candy and I have no problem giving candy to teens. Growing up is hard. Teens and preteens receive so many messages about what they should or shouldn't be doing and I think most of this stuff should be left up to the children. For example, a nine year old may decide that she's not interested in trick or treating. A 17 or 18 year old may look forward to the experience all year long. To me it's like a lot of other things. .
I totally agree. I do not discriminate. Everyone who comes to my door gets candy. little kids, moms and dads, teenagers. They don't even have to have a costume. Not everyone can afford that. My middle dd is going as a runner and just wearing her track clothes. and its cold here on halloween. Whats the point in dressing up if you are just putting a coat and mittens and snow boots over your costume? Its just fun. I am all about giving people candy though . Since I take my kids out and get home late I mostly hand out to kids middle school or older. A lot of the college kids around here even trick or treat (two campuses in walking distance.) I love it that people can still feel young and uninhibited once a year. Everyone has always been polite. And I live in a tough neighborhood. Yet we get no trouble on halloween.

My dd is 14 and will go trick or treating this year. She has little sisters so it looks like she is taking them around
post #33 of 96
I'm 47 and I still love trick or treating.
post #34 of 96
I went until I was 16; my kids can TOT for as long as they like.
post #35 of 96
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I totally agree. I do not discriminate. Everyone who comes to my door gets candy. little kids, moms and dads, teenagers. They don't even have to have a costume. Not everyone can afford that. My middle dd is going as a runner and just wearing her track clothes. and its cold here on halloween. Whats the point in dressing up if you are just putting a coat and mittens and snow boots over your costume? Its just fun. I am all about giving people candy though . Since I take my kids out and get home late I mostly hand out to kids middle school or older. A lot of the college kids around here even trick or treat (two campuses in walking distance.) I love it that people can still feel young and uninhibited once a year. Everyone has always been polite. And I live in a tough neighborhood. Yet we get no trouble on halloween.

My dd is 14 and will go trick or treating this year. She has little sisters so it looks like she is taking them around
This I don't have a cut off age for my kids.
post #36 of 96
This thread is making me sad, my mom made me stop when I was 8

My 12 is going TOT(along with littler sis)this year. She's going to be Max from Where the Wild Things Are. Her best friend, the same age, can't go because last year her mom told her THAT was the last time. Friend was and still is sad about it.
post #37 of 96
hey it's a candy holiday! lol i pass it out to everyone. i don't care how old or whether they have a costume. it really isn't a big deal to buy a couple bags of candy and hand it out to people having a good time.

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post #38 of 96
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Originally Posted by 2xy View Post

As long as kids aren't rude and actually fashion some sort of costume, I don't care how old they are.
This is how I feel too!
post #39 of 96
As long as they are polite and not causing any trouble, I don't see a reason for a cut-off. We almost never get any trick or treaters to our house, so I wouldn't mind any of any age.
post #40 of 96
Thread Starter 
I guess around here the older kids are often not dressed up and also rude.

I agree with pps that good costumes and good attitudes get treats... but that is just not how it is here.

I guess I don' t think there is a problem channeling the fun of a holiday into something a little more age appropriate- like a party or something else fun.


I am not super in Halloween so maybe I have a different perspective.
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