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Will you be finding out the sex? Surprise?

post #1 of 59
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I'm curious to know who among us is planning on learning of the babies sex before birth and who is waiting. Do you have a preference as to what sex your LO will be? Have you always found out before hand or kept it a special birth surprise? Mixed it up? No US, perhaps?

If our LO cooperates we'll be finding out before birth - can't wait to know I've always found out before birth. My SO would like to have a baby boy but will be thrilled with either, I have no preference. We have to wait until JANUARY!
post #2 of 59
We'll be finding out the gender . We did with dd, and that just fits with my general personality anyway. I was never one who could wait to find out information (must be the researcher in me). Also, knowing the gender helps me with bonding/personalization -- rather than referring to the baby as well, 'the baby' or whoever.

We have no preference
post #3 of 59
We haven't decided yet, but I'll probably cave in and find out.

We found out with both our boys, so we thought it might be nice to have our last pregnancy be a surprise...but waiting drives me crazy! lol I really should wait, though, as we don't care too much what sex it is. A girl would be nice for a change of pace, but a load of little boys would be fun, too!
post #4 of 59
I won't be having an U/S, so no chance of finding out. I have guessed all my babies sex correctly prior to birth, so I am guessing I will have a good idea in the next several months of what we are having. I secretly have a desire for twin boys, then we would be even 6 and 6, but really I don't much care.
post #5 of 59
I have several close friends who had false gender predictions on U/S! I was really not that confident in what I could learn. Plus, I don't really trust U/S. So with my daughter, she was a surprise! Oh, and such a wonderful, beautifully healthy little girl too. I was SURE It was going to be a boy though! It's tradition in my family to be 100% wrong, us mamas, though. I always said, though, that if my midwife said, "I think you should check this out with U/S." I wouldn't prevent them from finding out the gender. Now, after accidentally taking some drugs early, early in this pregnancy, I might just do the diagnostic U/S for safety and peace of mind. I'm still deciding. Again, I think I would want to know what I could know, but who knows! Surprises are fun too! Just not surprises when you have an entirely blue/pink nursery set up, etc.
post #6 of 59
We're finding out. DD was a surprise, and it was great, mostly. This time it will be better for me in terms of bonding with the baby. It was strange to me how I separated the concept of the baby in my belly and DD, the actual, real baby in my arms. Maybe I'm just weird though.

Plus, I want cute newborn dipes this time!! Not that there is anything wrong with pale green and yellow ducks, and not that boys and girls have to be blue or pink, but family members sent us a lot of stuff ahead of time and it would be nice to have some things that are more gender specific. Or at least not all yellow ducks.

Overall, it will help me to know the little person inside, and focus on him or her, rather than an unknown. Labor and birth will bring me enough unknowns.
post #7 of 59
No. Unless DH remembers that I promised him we could second time around because he let me not find out last time (and I had 11 ultrasounds with DD). I really liked having the surprise. And I really liked that DH got to tell me the gender, and that there was one thing he got to find out before me. Now, we were both completely convinced the baby was a boy ... oops!
post #8 of 59
Yeah, it was weird that I "missed" my little boy and sometimes, like in late night stupor, I forgot what gender my baby was!
post #9 of 59
We plan to find out- I have with all my kids. We would love to have a boy this time since our last one was a girl....but honestly with my history I just want a healthy take home baby!! :-)
post #10 of 59
I really want to know with this one but DP is holding firm on the Surprise... so it will be another suprise
post #11 of 59
We found out with my daughter, but I think I might like to try for the surprise this time, if for no other reason than to just do things a little differently to have a different experience. My husband is of the mind that "there are enough surprises with a new baby" so he would, I'm sure, like to find out.

One of the reasons I'd rather not is because I don't want our families genderizing this kid before it even comes out with frills and lace (or trucks and sports) themed gifts. Coming home from my baby shower with a suitcase full of pink stuff last time really overwhelmed me. I was like, "I hope this ultrasound was right, because this is a lot!" I also could do without the comments like, "Oh, one of each, now it's perfect/complete!" as if it wouldn't be perfect with two of the same, or if we have another daughter, comments like "Oh, you'll have to try again for a boy..." when we aren't planning on having more than two...that kind of thing. But I guess all of that stuff surfaces after the birth anyway, so there's no real way to escape it.

I guess we'll wait until that 20 week ultrasound rolls around and make a decision...
post #12 of 59
We found out with the first two, our adopted princess was a surprise as we put in for either and now DH says we need the last to be a surprise. I agreed but now am getting itchy because I am tired of knitting green and yellow *LOL*
post #13 of 59
This is going to be our first UC babe, so no ultrasounds, I am SO excited to find out when he or she is born! What an awesome thing I can't wait to experience.
post #14 of 59
I totally get what you're saying. And just out of curiosity where in Brooklyn are you? We're in midtown right now, ugh, but are looking at places in brooklyn.

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Originally Posted by BarefootinBrooklyn View Post
We found out with my daughter, but I think I might like to try for the surprise this time, if for no other reason than to just do things a little differently to have a different experience. My husband is of the mind that "there are enough surprises with a new baby" so he would, I'm sure, like to find out.

One of the reasons I'd rather not is because I don't want our families genderizing this kid before it even comes out with frills and lace (or trucks and sports) themed gifts. Coming home from my baby shower with a suitcase full of pink stuff last time really overwhelmed me. I was like, "I hope this ultrasound was right, because this is a lot!" I also could do without the comments like, "Oh, one of each, now it's perfect/complete!" as if it wouldn't be perfect with two of the same, or if we have another daughter, comments like "Oh, you'll have to try again for a boy..." when we aren't planning on having more than two...that kind of thing. But I guess all of that stuff surfaces after the birth anyway, so there's no real way to escape it.

I guess we'll wait until that 20 week ultrasound rolls around and make a decision...
post #15 of 59
Hi OrangeMoon, NYC neighbor! We're in Park Slope but actually planning a mid-winter move to Connecticut. My husband has a job there now and has been commuting but we figure with a new little one on the way we'd like him to be a little closer during the days--and having a yard to run around in will be a welcome change!
post #16 of 59
I definitely have to find out. With my DD, I had one 22 week ultrasound to find out her gender because I couldn't stand it anymore! I KNEW she was a girl and i almost threw up on the way because I was so nervous about it. I had a lot of pressure to have a girl though... all of my sisters have had boys- 7 of them! Anyway, we will find out with this one too because we are hoping girl again... and I have to know if I need all new boy things! Can't wait for 14 more weeks to pass by and we will know!
post #17 of 59
I intentionally found out, and am glad I know. Now I'm preparing myself to be the mother of two boys, a dominantly male household. Reading some books on the issue. Preparing my son for a brother, and the grandparents for another boy. Stuff like that.
post #18 of 59
I found out with the older two, but I had OB care and they did a lot of ultrasounds.

With younger dd we did not find out, and did not have any ultrasounds after one at 7 weeks. We have midwifery care.

We will likely not have any ultrasounds this time around, unless the midwives feel it is needed. I doubt they will, they are pretty hands off. I asked DH if he wanted to know if we had only one (My best friend had surprise twins when I was newly pregnant so that was a concern for him at first. ) and he said no way.
post #19 of 59


We are finding out and will also be going a 3-d ultrasound for fun and to confirm the gender. I did that with my other two kids.

Oh and with my first pregnancy the only name we could agree on was a girl name and we had a girl.

With my pregnancy with my son, that name was the only name we could agree on still ( we agreed on it with the m/c that happened before getting pregnant with him) and we ended up having a boy.


With this baby there is one name my husband said was okay and was sorta trying to say we need to pick a different name because our 7 year old was having issues saying it but if said to her a few times and ask her to repeat it she says it just fine. The name i really like and he sorta liked is a girl name.

I kinda hope it's a girl, but would be happy with another boy.



post #20 of 59
we will wait and see. i like that moment of discovery after the birth and i will be the one to say what the baby is or maybe not maybe just cuddle the baby. with my son i wanted to know what name to call him so i looked and said "hi dmitri" that was nice i may do that again.
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