I haven't decided yet. I'd kinda like to, because of knitting - I'm partway through my second green item.
Both things I've knitted so far are gender-neutral, but a lot of the patterns I like aren't - and I don't just mean "pink vs blue". There are some really chunky, "manly" little vests that would look a bit severe on a girl baby, and I have an idea for a gorgeous pink Celtic-knot-cabled pinafore I'd like to do for a girl. I know the baby itself won't care, but I don't want to miss out on all the lovely not
-gender-neutral patterns out there. (The chances of me having time/energy to knit after the baby's born are.... slim.)
The only thing that's stopping me is disapproval from my mum and sister, who both seem to feel it's morally virtuous to be surprised. My sister said it would be "a pity" to find out, and Mum made clucking noises and said she
always liked to be surprised after labour. Which was actually my reasoning with DD, but to be honest, at the end of MY labour she would have had to be a magical unicorn baby to get much of a reaction.
I may brave their disapproval out of sheer persnicketiness. We'll see.
It annoys me that they think it's a moral issue - I mean, come on, Mum HAD ultrasounds with all of us and was happy to not be "surprised" by our femur lengths and kidney structures! But anyhoo.
DH is pretty prosaic about it - thinks it would be handy to find out ahead of time in terms of clothing and thinking of names. I don't think he'd care if I decided not to, though. We definitely won't do a 3D ultrasound or an extra ultrasound just to peek, but I do plan on having the 20-week anatomy scan.
I guess I do have a preference, kinda, but nothing unto death. I think it'd be nice for DD to have a sister - I have five and no brothers, so I'm much more familiar with girls and think it'd be sad if she missed out on a close-in-age sister relationship. And of course, we have lots of girl clothes... and again, I have a slight suspicion some members of my family might vaguely disapprove of me having a boy, as if having girls is also morally virtuous! (My family is weeeeeeird.)
On the other hand, I've finally found a few boys' names I really like - Liam, Linden, Lachlan and a few others - and I don't have a strong candidate for a favourite girls' name right now. So that kinda sways me towards boy.
And I have found a few patterns online recently that dispelled my "sewing for boys is no fun" mentality. So I wouldn't mind
having a boy, I'd just have to adjust my ideas a bit.
Right now I think I want 3 children minimum, or 4 maximum. If I had a second girl I think I'd be really cruisey about the sex of the next two... whereas if this baby was a boy, I might be a little panicked during the next pregnancy or two, hoping I got another girl. Then again, I might decide I like parenting boys better! Who knows.
(Oops, sorry for the novel!)