Guess what, less than 3 months after he went back, social services asked if we would have him back. We said yes, if necessary and spelled out what we required, one thing being that it is permanent (we have not only to worry about Z's futture etc but our other children as well). As a result, I guess nothing is going to happen.
Z is back up there doing drugs etc again.
I don't know what we are going to do, we offered our help and just keep being knocked back or treated like crap and to be honest, this may sound awful, but I am ill enough as it is, having Z here made me so much worse, it really unsettled the girls, the effect on the finances were devastating, I almost lost my marriage, its not right that Z is where he is doing what he is doing but when I look at the whole picture and what him living with us might do to us, I am just not sure that him being here would work out (there are a couple of Z's behaviour issues that I am not going to discuss here that give cause for concern and also affect my thinking about the whole thing).
I don't know what can be done, I don't know what too do. We tried to keep in contact with Z after he went but he wasn't interested.
Whole thing sucks.