OP here -- I should add that DH plays music on the side and any equipment he "needs" gets taken out of his budget. He does not save up for anything -- I don't think he's capable of it, really.
And he doesn't get fast food much anymore now that he's gluten-free, so I try to have leftovers for him to take to work for lunch. I know he'd like to buy CDs and go to the occasional show, but honestly, I can't see how he can't do that on $30 a week. I know gluten-free beer and wine are pricey, but still. Maybe because I don't really drink I don't understand.
We follow the Mary Hunt "Freedom Account" idea to cover expense that are not regular, so clothes, gifts, home improvements, postage stamps, etc. are all covered as well. Like the previous poster, every dollar has a home.
I think my mistake was making the amount $50 a week at first (long, long ago) and then changing it to $30. Money IS tight or I wouldn't begrudge him a bit more. I mean, we could afford it, technically, but we have hardly anything in savings and have a huge mortgage. I personally think getting a handle on those things (plus saving up to replace our 11- and 12-year old cars when they go, plus insulating the house, etc.) is more important.
I don't mean to say that DH is constantly complaining or anything. He's really very supportive of how I handle our money. I guess I *do* feel a little guilty knowing he's not entirely happy with the amount of money he gets each week.