Still having a hard time adjusting

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My 3 year old started in the 3-6 class in the beginning of August. He'll be 4 in December.

He is still having loads of anxiety in the morning. He even tries to re-buckle his seat sometimes. He does not want to go.

He does enjoy the school, once the upset of separation is past. And we really love the school.

I have a parent/teacher conference tomorrow.

I just don't know what to do. It's heartbreaking. We may end up pulling him and trying again next year. I don't know. I'm just so sick over it.

[Rose-Roget]

That's really hard. We went through that when my son was younger and attended a traditional daycare/early childhood program. My husband dropped him off in the mornings, but it broke my heart to hear he cried every day. But every day he stopped crying just after dh left. Now he loves school and goes cheerfully. I don't really have advice - just wanted to say I've btdt.

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Originally Posted by Rose-Roget

That's really hard. We went through that when my son was younger and attended a traditional daycare/early childhood program. My husband dropped him off in the mornings, but it broke my heart to hear he cried every day. But every day he stopped crying just after dh left. Now he loves school and goes cheerfully. I don't really have advice - just wanted to say I've btdt.

That's still helpful. I'm not even sure what I wanted out of my post. Just to verbalize it with other Montessori parents, I guess. Even though it isn't a Montessori-specific problem.

How long did it take for your son to adjust?

[EvansMa]

My son started a month ago and he just turned 3. He still cries at the door to his class. His teacher picks him up and takes him to class and I kiss him and say go by and then I am out the door.

Eventually it will be easier. My ds just needs to realize that all of the crying and telling me he doesn't want to go to school won't change my mind, he is going to go to school.

[mattemma04]

We see a lot of little ones crying in the am at drop off. I recall one girl who cried every day in ds's primary class.She was 3 and still cried at 4.As long as they are OK during the day most parents seem to just get through the am blues.

My ds is 8 now and says there are some kids that cry during the day in lower el.Not every day just once in a while.Most times the kids are ok.If it was an all day miserable thing for the child then I would pull my own out too.

[Anandamama]

That is a rough way to start the day. Do you pick him up at noon or is he there longer? I wonder if some kind of ritual could help ease the morning separation for him? Are you able to sneak up and observe him in his class without him noticing? I am a M. teacher of toddlers and sometimes encourage parents to come peek through the window so they can see how quickly their child quits crying and becomes happy and engaged in class. I also take lots of pictures of the kids and post them on a classroom website so the parents can get a better idea of what their children are doing in class. It's one thing to be told your child is happy and fine while at school and another to see it.