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post #21 of 25
for her reaction. I know you were prepared for it but I'm sure that doesn't ease the pain too much. At the same time, I'm proud of you for telling!
post #22 of 25
Maybe it would help her to read some of the more "pro-parenting" type of progressive feminist stuff. I'm sorry that I can't recommend anything but I know it's out there. If you post on MDC I'll bet you'll get a lot of great suggestions for articles and books.
post #23 of 25
I'm sorry it went as you expected it would. I really hoped she would be able to rise above herself and put you and your happiness first. Perhaps you can give her this book and get her to read this thread.

""Imagine women with masters degrees and PhDs who choose home over career advancement. Imagine wives (and husbands) who reject the false promise of endless paid labor to tend gardens and children and friendships. In a time when Wall Street MBAs-producing nothing of value but rewarded with million-dollar bonuses and blinded by greed-have driven our country to bankruptcy and despair, Shannon Hayes' stories of women and men who choose simplicity, authenticity and community inspire hope. Outside the boxes of both conservatives and liberals, this book is radical thinking at its best. Read it and think."-John de Graaf, coauthor of Affluenza and director of Take Back Your Time"

Hugs, mama. We are happy for you - that you are with us in this DDC and that you finally got this huge burden off of your shoulders...
post #24 of 25
Why is it that there are so many "feminsts" out there that devalue things that are inately feminine? (Like motherhood, and breastfeeding.) What if instead of doing more than "just being a SAHM," I want to do more than, "just have a career"? What if I feel that these human lives I have created with my husband are worth devoting everything I have to? Currently both DH and I work part-time and we are able to spend a lot of time with our son, and a lot of time together as a family. I do have a college degree, and I make a decent hourly wage. We would be a lot better off financially if we both worked full-time, and I enjoy my job, but it is not may passion; my family is my passion.

Good for you for making your own decisions, regardless of how your mother feels about them . I wish she could understand what a truly brave and progressive thing you are doing.
post #25 of 25
Does it at least feel better to have the secret out? I hope your mom comes around for you, and can support the choice that you have made to be a SAHM. You did the things she hoped for you and have moved on to something else, she should be proud.
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