This is one of my biggest fears...
If I were to die, my 15 year old son would be put in a foster home in NY (where we live) while they tracked down his biological Father in MA. Once they found him, he'd have the choice of taking him in or not- he would not. Then, they would do an investigation to see if anyone in my family could take him- they would do anything possible to take him, but I'm not sure if any would be accepted- my Mother is physically handicapped, my sister has four children already, my Grandmother's health is going downhill fast, my brothers, maybe, but they're two 20something bachelors living in the bad part of town and working odd hours. My son would likely never against see my soon-to-be-ex Husband and stepsister- they would have no legal right to remain in his life. Most likely, he'd end up in a foster home in MA near my biological family.
If I were to die, my baby (due in January), would be taken by his biological father, an abusive, irresponsonsible man who lives with his abusive and vindictive Mother. My little son would never see his big brother, would never see my family- he would disappear with the father. If I were to die, my two sons would be seperated, in two different states, in two different families, and lose all contact. This thought terrifies me. :-(
If I were to die, my 15 year old son would be put in a foster home in NY (where we live) while they tracked down his biological Father in MA. Once they found him, he'd have the choice of taking him in or not- he would not. Then, they would do an investigation to see if anyone in my family could take him- they would do anything possible to take him, but I'm not sure if any would be accepted- my Mother is physically handicapped, my sister has four children already, my Grandmother's health is going downhill fast, my brothers, maybe, but they're two 20something bachelors living in the bad part of town and working odd hours. My son would likely never against see my soon-to-be-ex Husband and stepsister- they would have no legal right to remain in his life. Most likely, he'd end up in a foster home in MA near my biological family.
If I were to die, my baby (due in January), would be taken by his biological father, an abusive, irresponsonsible man who lives with his abusive and vindictive Mother. My little son would never see his big brother, would never see my family- he would disappear with the father. If I were to die, my two sons would be seperated, in two different states, in two different families, and lose all contact. This thought terrifies me. :-(
