I'm hoping to get a little insight on my mother's behavior these days and I figure some wise mama's here might have some ideas!
It is a well known fact in our family that I was breastfed untill two. My mom has often mentionned it (when pertinent to the conversation, of course!!!) without shame or remorse, just as a fact, really. She's often talked about her leaving her classes (she was in university when she had me) to go pick me up at nursery school to bf me, and that even once on solids, I was a very picky eater who'd rather nurse than have food. Again, she never seems to have shown any shame or remorse or hard feelings about this; it was just a fact of life story.
Which is why now that my daughter is one, I find it so bizarre that lately, she's been dropping several hints (well, so it seems) that I should probably start weaning her. For example, if DD comes up to me to nurse, my mother will pick her up away from me and say something like "no, no, you don't need mommy's milk right now" and occupy her with something else. Last week, she even offered DD a glass of cow's milk (she drinks it when I'm at work and my mother takes care of her) which is fine, but she said "here, have some real milk, not your mama's old milk" What????
I did sorta ask her about whether she was trying to tell me I should be weaning (not that I would because she said so, but just to try to understand her message) and her reply was "Of course no, you should nurse for as long as you feel right about it, I nursed you till you were two..."( Yes mom, I know!!)
I'm not really hurt by these comments, to be honest, but utterly confused!!! Here is a woman who, up to now, has been soooo, sooo supportive of BF and especially extended BF. What's going on now???
It is a well known fact in our family that I was breastfed untill two. My mom has often mentionned it (when pertinent to the conversation, of course!!!) without shame or remorse, just as a fact, really. She's often talked about her leaving her classes (she was in university when she had me) to go pick me up at nursery school to bf me, and that even once on solids, I was a very picky eater who'd rather nurse than have food. Again, she never seems to have shown any shame or remorse or hard feelings about this; it was just a fact of life story.
Which is why now that my daughter is one, I find it so bizarre that lately, she's been dropping several hints (well, so it seems) that I should probably start weaning her. For example, if DD comes up to me to nurse, my mother will pick her up away from me and say something like "no, no, you don't need mommy's milk right now" and occupy her with something else. Last week, she even offered DD a glass of cow's milk (she drinks it when I'm at work and my mother takes care of her) which is fine, but she said "here, have some real milk, not your mama's old milk" What????
I did sorta ask her about whether she was trying to tell me I should be weaning (not that I would because she said so, but just to try to understand her message) and her reply was "Of course no, you should nurse for as long as you feel right about it, I nursed you till you were two..."( Yes mom, I know!!)
I'm not really hurt by these comments, to be honest, but utterly confused!!! Here is a woman who, up to now, has been soooo, sooo supportive of BF and especially extended BF. What's going on now???
